had second date last night...??

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Registered: 08-03-2005
had second date last night...??
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Wed, 06-24-2009 - 11:47am

So i met a guy online, I actually messaged him first. I thought he was cute, seemed nice and funny. He wrote back and we talked a for about a week or so everyday over email. We decided to meet up for drinks and apps. Well I'll just say that things went really well and i ended up going back to his place. We only kissed and cuddled. He kept saying, wow i broke pretty much all my first date rules (in addition to that we had talked about politics, religion, things i guess he doesnt talk about on a first date) He said a few times that he really likes me, loves cuddling with me and he didnt want to get up to go to work. Well he did. after that he's like, well next time we hang out we should probably just go to dinner or something. He said he had fun, but i could tell things had got too crazy for him. I was ok with what had happened. It was just kissing/cuddling...i'm more of a go with the flow type of person. He texted me that afternoon saying we should make dinner plans for next week. I said, that sounds good. two days later he texts me saying he'd call me at the end of weekend to make plans. He did.


So last night we had the 2nd date. He made a reservation at a nice place.

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Registered: 03-03-2004
Wed, 06-24-2009 - 12:41pm

I think he's interested in you, but until you talk more, it sounds like it's going to be pretty hard to

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Registered: 08-03-2005
Wed, 06-24-2009 - 1:24pm

Thanks :) yeah i have learned to not have too much expectation either. I have found when i dont seem to care what happens next that's when people are interested in me. But when i am really into them i usually come on too strong and things just fall apart. I'm also the type that when i like someone i want to talk to them frequently. I dont see that happening with this guy unless i make the first move as far as contacting him maybe tomorrow or friday...just to say hi, hope you're having a good week. If that's too much for him, then forget it. I am going to continue to see other people. Who knows what he's doing.


I had another online experience where i went out with this guy 3 or 4 times. i realized after the 3rd date that i had no interest. things moved really slowly...however he is still texting me and asking me out. I guess everyone has their own style. I've also had the relationships where things move quickly in the begining, things seem great, seeing them all the time, but they can crash and burn too.

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Registered: 06-08-2008
Wed, 06-24-2009 - 4:30pm

IMO, its best to let the man do the asking and calling in the beggining anyhow...


I've been dating a wonderful man for 3 months now, he still asks me out and calls me all the time... I have never have asked him out once!

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Registered: 02-25-2009
Thu, 06-25-2009 - 12:26am

I kind of agree with this as well.

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Registered: 08-03-2005
Thu, 06-25-2009 - 8:51am

well we've only been out twice...but i decided im not going to contact him. I dont feel tremendously interested in him. I was after the first date, i felt excited, and while the 2nd date was nice...it just wasnt all that exciting. I feel like i waited in anticipation and it was just like, eh. I dont want to do that all over again.


Dating is so hard. I'm so tired of watching all my friends get married and get into great relationships. It's been a long time since i've had a long term committed relationship. I'm gong to be 31 in july. I feel like something is wrong with me. I am the black sheep of my family and peers all together in that i am single.