Handling the fling

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Registered: 04-25-2003
Handling the fling
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Mon, 11-21-2005 - 3:44pm
Prompted by Sheri's message, how do you handle a fling? I made the decision to have one - nice guy, great chemistry and exclusive. I thought about it for days before going through with it. However, what has surprised me is that suddenly I feel needy and am thinking about this way too much. I thought I was coming into this from a position of strength. Any words of wisdom?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-2005
Wed, 11-23-2005 - 1:19pm

The rule of thumb that I've developed for myself is, a fling, by definition, will end. If I have some idea that the end is going to be very hard on me, then I won't go through with it. If I feel that I can enjoy a casual relationship and not be devastated when the end comes, I will give it a try.

The only problem is, things change....so I find myself keeping a close eye on how things are evolving.

That being said, I've yet to enjoy a single fling...because either it was so casual that it wasn't worth it, or I didn't start up with the person because I suspected it would end badly!!

Good luck, & let us know how you do!

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