Hang out

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Hang out
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Sun, 08-20-2006 - 9:44pm

1- When a guy picks "Hang out" from a list of: dating, short term, long term, activity partner, intimate encounters, hang out, and friends? what is he looking for? to me Hang out sounds same as Dating. What do you think?

2- I met this guy online n we chatted on the phone. We hit it off completely and made plans to meet the next day(Monday) I asked him if he met anyone and he said yes he met one girl but she was looking for dating and a BF so they did not stay together. I can tell he was very excited about meeting me, but I m a little confused about why he has "Hang out" in his profile. Does that mean he is looking for a sex buddy? why was he rushing to set a meeting if he is looking for friends only?




Edited 8/21/2006 8:47 am ET by juliara2003
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Registered: 07-03-2006
In reply to: juliara2003
Sun, 08-20-2006 - 9:54pm
To me Hang Out means friends, but not looking for someone to go to the bars with or go hiking as activity partner might imply. I think if he was just looking for sex he should of answered "intimate incounters". But you should probally ask what exactly he is looking for.
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Registered: 08-11-2006
In reply to: juliara2003
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 1:31pm
I think "hanging out" with people indicates casual friendship. I hope I am wrong on this one, but at times, many guys think "hanging out" means being friends with possible benefits.
When in doubt, ask him what he is looking for online. No need to speculate. Good luck :-)
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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: juliara2003
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 3:55pm
Beware: Loser alert! If he is over 30, it means he is very immature and/or really doesn't have it together enough to date you(broke, etc). He has to rely on confusing women with that term just to try and get sex from them while offering nothing. Avoid him like the plague!
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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: juliara2003
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 11:00pm
I agree with you, Terri all the signs indicate Loser but after I met him I kind of realized why it is Hang out he is looking for.
This guy is on 2 year contract in my city but he might be getting a very good position in France and will move in 4 months(instead of spending 2 yrs here) So I understand him not wanting a relationship at this time. The problem is he is super good looking, very sweet, a bit shy, has a PhD and has travelled the world and is very much into sports and arts! so in a nutshell, my ideal guy! I dont know why I did not meet him earlier or why I m meeting him now since he is leaving anyway. We agreed to meet again and I certainly would not mind him as a friend. But I wish we could be more. I meet 13 people thru OLD and he is the only one I feel attracted to! Mind you he is the only one leaving the country! Oh well it is my luck!
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Registered: 11-08-2003
In reply to: juliara2003
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 7:51am
If you look on the bright side, you've met one that you find interesting and attractive which shows that they do exist. Perhaps the experience will give you more hope.