happy or disappointed..im not sure...

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happy or disappointed..im not sure...
Wed, 07-09-2003 - 7:54pm
Wasnt feeling well these last couple weeks at all. Upset tummy, dizzy, light headed, finiky eater. Then I kinda freaked thinking I was pregnant. Couldnt see my doc till today.

Found out im not. Might have a low iron count or something. But on the ride home....

it felt like I was missing something.

So Im in this quasi-happy and sad thing right now.

My heart wanted a baby, my head said ok, but not this year.

Mom was like phewwww... dad was like double phewwww... Fred was like... well we can start trying for real if you want?

I feel a lil cheated. :(

Mom cant see why I just wanna be alone right now. Fred got me the new Harry Potter today for a late bday pressie. think I will hole up in my room for awhile and read. Escape?

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Wed, 07-09-2003 - 9:02pm
Awww, hugs sweetie! Of course you feel let down. You thought you might be and you got excited at the prospect of a baby and when you weren't pregnant it made you upset. I think you would make a wonderful mother, however, just make sure that you and Fred can handle it first...I know you've been having some problems lately. You'll start feeling better in a few days...go out and eat some chocolate and read Harry Potter in a nice hot bubble bath :)



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Thu, 07-10-2003 - 12:30am
I have been exactly where you are now. An unexpected pregnancy or "almost" pregnancy can be very confusing. First you're scared to death and in denial, then kinda strangely excited. All the while still hoping you are not. Then when you get the results and it's negative you feel relieved and disappointed at the same time and you're surprised you're disappointed 'cause this really wasn't what you had planned right now anyway. Just try to remember everything happens for a reason and having these feelings is quite common. Take Care.
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Thu, 07-10-2003 - 7:43am
I don't think you have a child because you think you're missing something - even if that something is a child - I don't think it's about fulfilling a self-need but about giving 110% to another human being - to me that requires that you feel completely fulfilled on your own because to expect a child to fill the missing piece is a tall order for that child.

I hope Fred is doing well.

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Thu, 07-10-2003 - 1:21pm
Oh, Charlene, honey....hugs! I know it can be weird. You know its not the right time, but the thought of having a little on inside you, does make you want it. Well, just know that there is reason why you arent and when it happens, it will be the right time. Just go with what you know in your heart. IF you want to try and see if it happens, go ahead. It will take nine months to have it. So, next year is when you would deliver. Well, look at me trying to convince you of it. Well, you know what is right for you. Just a side note, pregnancy is certainly not fun. Sick, sleepy, go the bathroom all the time, that is just carrying the baby, then when its born, forget sleep. If you want, think about the time you are having with Fred right now. It will be seperated between baby and husband. That is hard. Living in the house with the parents too?! OOOHHH! I would wait in that case. lol Well, goodluck to you whatever you decide and I am sorry you wanted it and it didnt happen. HUGS!


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Thu, 07-10-2003 - 6:19pm
thanks for all the good vibes ladies *huggles*

I re read my post and i think i should clarify. I thought for a couple weeks I might be pregnant, and when it turned out i wasnt, it was like it had been stolen from me in a way.

And, my heart wanted a baby, while my head told me all the reasons for not wanting one at this point in time. Gosh, lol my parents are raising my husband and me right now, lol dont need to throw a baby in there too lol

The time will come when it is meant to, plain and simple. Gotta concentrate on making some money and gettin outa the folks place.

We are looking at, well my dad is, a portable sawmill business. Customized lumber orders are big right now and we can use wood that most mills would just use for chipping. IF Dad gets the loan for it, Fred and I will work it for him. Dad has a good job he likes, but really wants to get into this business as well. It would be good for us all, get Fred and I outa the house fast. lol Wish us luck!! :)

TTFN:) Keep smilin all Charlene

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Thu, 07-10-2003 - 9:59pm
Just wanted to send you hugs Charlene, I'm glad you're feeling better! You and Fred are on my pv (positive vibes) list!!
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Fri, 07-11-2003 - 7:24pm
I got you on my list too.I hope things work out with the business.I understand the disappointment but you rtime will come when it is right.Hugs,Crystal
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Sun, 07-13-2003 - 2:40am
Hugs for u Charlene, just relax and everything will be fine...things all happen for a reason, it's not given to you coz it's not meant to be yet. It will come in right time..wish ya luck..