hard time finding time....

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Registered: 06-27-2005
hard time finding time....
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Tue, 12-20-2005 - 5:22pm
Hey, I know I haven't posted my story up here before, but some of you were in chat last night when I shared my news about taking things to the next level with Teddy... So for those of you who do not know the full story here it is in a nutshell:
I met Teddy through OLD back in late August, we has our first meet in September, and we have been steadily seeing each other since then. Usually about every other week. We are both single parents to toddler boys, and we both have a hard time leaving our children for dates... but last Friday we finally kissed and got a little physical. It was really nice and I know he likes me... Anyway, he says he wants to see me, and I want to see him too, but I don't want to seem to eager. But with the holidays coming, I know I can't see him this weekend... so I want to ask him if he can fit some time in this week to have dinner or something... But I am a little old fashioned and like for the guy to ask me out.... What is the boards opinion?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2005
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 5:47pm
Considering you guys have been steadily seeing each other since August, I don't see anything wrong with you taking the initiative and asking him if he is available to get together this week since you will not be available this weekend. The board promotes "men do the chasing" initially (or in the beginning) but since you guys have been consistent, there is nothing wrong with initiating. Guys want to feel as if you are interested in seeing them too and will make plans. Of course, if you are asking, then be prepared to pay! He, of course, may pay anyway, but just be prepared.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 6:36pm
I think it is ok for women to ask men out after getting to know then a little. I wouldn't hesitate to initiate after the first few dates because I want to show him that I'm interested too and it also shows that he's not going down a one way street and that you're also putting in some efforts into the relationship.
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Registered: 06-01-2005
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 11:18am

Hi Kae,


Congratulations on your steady progress with Teddy.

CL-Truewild1969

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-2005
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 12:04pm
Yeah- he invited me to spend New Years Eve with him. Which I agreed. But I don't want to wait that long to see him...
I had shared with him that I have new years curse, all of my past 5-6 NY eve's have been a sad disaster! So he said he is making it a priority to change that curse and wants me to ring in the NY with him... I am excited.. So we will see.
My son will be with his grandparents for the weekend, so I will have plenty of time to myself...
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Registered: 05-23-2005
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 1:01pm
I agree with the others...that after 4 months of dating, it's perfectly o.k. to ask him out to dinner. I'm sure he'd really be touched by the gesture.
Have a great holiday and congrats on your progress with Teddy.
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