Has anyone else felt like this?
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| Fri, 12-08-2006 - 8:55pm |
I feel lonely after my latest, very promising, relationship nose dived, but I just can not bring myself to get back into the dating game right now. So I am taking a break. I have seen other posters who have written about taking breaks before and I have done it myself, but this time feels different. My level of frustration is at an all time high. I feel like I am spinning my wheels and going no where. I also keep thinking that maybe the guy I am ultimately looking for is not on a dating site. Of course I have no idea where he might be, but I'm just feeling like I am not going to find him on the internet. Most of my friends are married or coupled up so there is not a lot of going out with the girls to pick up guys, KWIM? I live in a college town so most of the entertainment is geared toward 18-25 year olds not those over 30! So, I am struggling. I've spent a lot of time figuring out what I want, but I'm beginning to think finding it may take a life time. sigh. Sorry just needed to vent a little, thanks!
YG

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One of my friends told me that finding love is half letting yourself find it and letting it find you. It sounds confusing but the more time goes on, the more it seems to make sense. It's hard to not get discouraged. Especially during this time of the year! Always put yourself first and do what is most healthy for you. Then you will never go wrong! :)
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Yes, you are right.
Back when I was younger, I knew several older women (women in what is now my age bracket) who divorced and went frantic about finding a new man before they got "too old." One that I remember in particular was the mother of one of my daughter's friends. She was just desperate, that poor woman, because the loneliness was so bad.
Long story short, all of these women ended up (at least for a while) in bad relationships.
I think it makes more sense to look at dating as fun in itself, to look for someone to spend pleasant time with right now instead of trying to force myself to look for a relationship that will not feel right.
Elsa
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