Has anyone seen Poetry in profiles?

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Has anyone seen Poetry in profiles?
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Wed, 08-26-2009 - 8:22pm

Has anyone ever seen any Poetry in Online Dating Profiles?


Original... or copied / excerpted from elsewhere?


Men or Women?


What were your thoughts about it?

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Registered: 04-27-2006
Thu, 08-27-2009 - 5:45am

yes, I've seen it. In guy's profiles. I don't buy it.... total cheese. Same as in the emails.

Hasn't happened to me....but I wouldn't like poetry on the first few dates either (or until there was an actual relationship established, but that's me).

Now if it were funny limericks.... that's different, but I would still wait until the first few dates.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Thu, 08-27-2009 - 1:07pm

I don't recall seeing any, except maybe lyrics from a song.

I would recommend against using poetry in a profile or in an email contact--I think it would come off as kind of schmaltzy. The exception would be if you were both into poetry (and your profiles stated this) then I could see that, OR, if the person sending the poetry really had a way with words and set up the BRIEF poem in a very clever way.

And I wouldn't count something like "There once was a man from Nantucket..." as poetry. ;-)

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Thu, 08-27-2009 - 5:35pm
I've seen poems and lyrics, too. I think it's pretty cheesy, a little pompous, especially when it's some obscure poet. Unless, of course, you are really a poet, but even then, if I met someone for the first time and he started reciting poetry, I would probably think he was a little full of himself.
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Registered: 06-09-2008
Thu, 08-27-2009 - 6:38pm

Sorry but.....cheesey!


My DH is a writer, a good one. He has written me some wonderful stuff, but not until after we were officialy dating. Before that would kinda creep me out to be honest.


Song lyrics might be ok...MAYBE.


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Registered: 10-02-2003
Sat, 08-29-2009 - 1:05pm

Poetry=creepy.


Song lyrics might be okay, depending on the lyrics!

sooooobig
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Registered: 11-07-2007
Sun, 08-30-2009 - 6:26am

Interesting responses, everyone.


"Poetry=creepy."


Ok, so if it's a guy who has poetry in his profile, why would that be creepy?


Is it creepy to have an "original" poem, or creepy to have a "classic" poem, or is it just any words that rhyme that creep women out?


Song lyrics might be okay, depending on the lyrics!


Couldn't the same be said about poetry:

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Sun, 08-30-2009 - 6:59am

I suppose it depends on the poetry. I think most of us are assuming the poem would be flowery and "mushy," which would come across as an attempt to be prematurely romantic or just trying too hard. Or, it could even come across as pretentious. Having said that, depending on what the poem was and how masterfully the man worked it in, it could be just fine--really. But I would keep it brief (like under 8 lines). If it is your own poetry, and you're really good, then it could be fine, especially if you're a poetry professor or happen to be the poet laureate of the United States. But to me, why take up room in a profile with poetry? Women want to know about your likes and dislikes, not read a poem. Song lyrics are the same.

But if a woman were a huge E.E. Cummings fan, and you quoted some of his poetry, she would be really knocked out I'm sure.

I'm assuming you want to include some poetry in your profile? Perhaps if we knew how you were going to use it we could assess this matter better.

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sun, 08-30-2009 - 10:18am

If I were into poetry, I still don't think I would want to read a poem in a profile, but I would want to know that the guy was also into it, perhaps by the naming of a few favorite poets.

I do artwork, but I don't necessarily care if a guy (who is also into it) shows his art in his profile pictures. I think it's a little show-offy. However, I am interested in him TELLING me in the profile what he does and what other artists he likes.

And if the person thinks your poetry/art is bad, it might be a turn off. I have met a lot of people whose art/music/poetry/writing is not my taste, but I like them as people, so I can overlook the disagreement in style/taste.

But that's just me.

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Registered: 10-02-2003
Sun, 08-30-2009 - 12:17pm

Why would a man want to put poetry in his profile in the first place?

sooooobig
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Mon, 08-31-2009 - 1:40pm

Yes, in profiles and in first emails.

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