haunted by regrets

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Registered: 08-18-2008
haunted by regrets
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Wed, 08-18-2010 - 9:57pm

I am thinking about the time I spent nightclubbing when I was younger, I'm 58 now, and haunted by

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 12:43pm

As a 57 yr old man who had been doing online dating on-and-off for 11 years since his divorce, I found it best to just do the things that I enjoy and grow as a person rather than waiting for THE woman to walk into my life.

This way I am a better, more attractive, more interesting, more relaxed and grounded person as the result of the work I do on myself.

I look to women who have their own interests, who take care of themselves, who are positive and who are engaged in life as great partners.

I am currently in a great relationship whom I found on eHarmony but also have made great women friends via other venues as well.

Good luck,
Mark

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 12:17pm

Thank you to you and to all those who responded.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 11:11am

Thank you for the advice.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 7:35pm

I'm very much into "age is just a number." I just turned 53--last week I was talking w/ a client and told him I have a 21 yr old DD and he said he didn't think I looked old enough for that. I would never lie about my age because I don't think it defines me. I don't feel people in their 50's are old. Of course I want a guy around my same age group, give or take. The guys who are in their 50's who want a woman 20 yrs younger obviously wouldn't be interested in me or you & that's fine.

I do think that middle aged people don't really hang around in clubs like the 20-30 yr olds. However, depending on what size city you live in, there are probably places that middle aged people can be found. I know there are specific social clubs on meetup in my area that are geared to that age group (one is called baby boomers). There are also certain singles dances that are for "older" people too--so just start looking around. NO use spending time thinking about the past & what could have been.

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Registered: 08-02-2010
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 4:33pm

You aren't alone in this and most men your age feels the same way so putting your age down on an online dating service shouldn't be a problem. There are great men out there looking for you....take the risk and get yourself out there. We have to leave the house because we all know they aren't coming knocking on our door.

I recently joined a gym and flirting with a few men and getting into shape at the same time. Since I am a woman of weight I joined Overeaters Anonymous and you just never know. (I did not join these for the men but it helps if they are attentive...lol)

Good luck....take the risk.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 12:58am

Online dating and doing group social things are ways of meeting people. The key is just to get out and expand your social circle and enjoy yourself. I believe you will have a better chance and a better time in meeting a partner that way.

Meetup.com and meetin.org are great social websites to do group things. Plus Craigslist has an activities section. Community colleges and adult ed courses are also ways to meet men. Parks and Recreation sponsored activities such as volleyball, softball and the like are also fun ways of meeting others.

Mark who met his sweetie on eHarmony but enjoys MeetUp and MeetIn group activities as well.