Have I been burned so many times.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2005
Have I been burned so many times.....
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Thu, 01-05-2006 - 6:22am

...that I'm paranoid.....Is this a red/yellow flag to you or am I just overly sensitive right now?

Had a great first meet/date on Sunday night (New Year's Day) and since then we've talked on the phone once and emailed every day. When we talked the day after our date he asked me out for later in the week. We agreed on Friday night for dinner somewhere. He told me to call him mid week or so to let him know how my week is going.

He beat me to the punch and emailed me on Tuesday and said we'd touch base on Wednesday night, by phone to firm up our Friday plans. So Wednesday rolls around and I get an email from him saying that he was going to a wrestling match that evening after work because he friend is coaching it/his first match and wants support. He specifically said that he'd call after 8:00.

Well, guess what? I'm sure you have already guessed.....NO call last night. My first suspicion is that he ended up getting home too late and didn't want to call for fear of waking me up, but.....

I've had so many men ghost on me that I'm paranoid. I truly don't think he's ghosting, but should I be worried that he didn't do what he said he was going to do or is that just ridiculous on MY part?

I just don't know what to think anymore and I wanted to bounce this off of all you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2005
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 6:53am

Well, it seems like every time I make a post like this, it brings on some kind of luck...

He emailed me ....must have been as soon as he got to work this morning....letting me know that got home too late and wasn't sure if he should call. He said he'll call me tonight.

I guess I have to cut him some slack. I just hope this isn't a pattern for him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 6:58am

Just my 2 cents, but I think it will take you a little longer to figure out where he is coming from. He may have a reason for not calling. He may have an excuse too. Time will tell how he feels about you. Good luck!

Sara

 
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 9:42am

I think it's normal to be paranoid when someone says they will call and doesn't, but you can't do anything about it.

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 4:44pm

I certainly can relate. I posted yesterday about the very same thing. It has happened to me three times. They are either good liars or we are too much woman for them to handle. I would prefer to think the latter.

Have you read the book "He is just not that into you"? I read it last night. I originally bought it for my 20 year old daughter and I have read it 3 times already!!! Very interesting read. It may help.

Men are gameplayers in the game of online dating it seems.

Good luck.

D.

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Registered: 05-28-2005
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 7:07pm

Yes, I have read that book and it had some good points.

I wouldn't begin to put him in that category yet....he has pursued me for a week and that is his only offense. I do have to give him a chance. We've only had one date so far.