have you ever met a guy online....

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Registered: 12-11-2004
have you ever met a guy online....
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Sat, 01-14-2006 - 3:02pm
hey everyone, just wondering if any of you met a guy from online face to face, and how did it go?, do you still talk and stuff or did you get married? hehe
lets hear those stories
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 3:27pm

I met 11 guys in total.
Guy # 9: we were so attracted to each other had about 6 dates that went really well. We were so compatible, age, looks and lifestyle. But he works in another country n 2 months after we met he left there. Still on my chat list and we talk from time to time but dunno if he will be moving back here anytime soon. Bummer!

Guy #10: was v. interesting but no chemistry "actually not my type physically" but we agreed to be friends and see how it goes even b4 we meet so we are still friends although I kind a like him a little bit more now :)

Guy # 2 was ok but has a very interesting lifestyle works as a movie producer... wanted to know more about him but felt there was no chemistry. Met couple of time then he ghosted. Appeared a few months later and invited me for a movie premiere!

many of the guys I met had a terrible sense of humour that freaked me out and some were not as good looking as the pics.

On first meet I go with no expectations at all. Chances are it is not going to work as I can tell from experience now (out of 11 I got 1 1/2 interesting people :)

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Registered: 08-10-2005
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 5:34pm

I have been doing OLD since June 2005.

The very first guy who email me from Match I meet and dated for about a week. Then he ghosted. never gave a reason, never called again....no big loss.......

I had a few crummy meets in June and earyl july....(1-2) Usually I would meet over coffee and we would a have a nice conversation but no sparks.

I met a guy in July that I dated for alomst a month. He broke it off with me because I would not commit to a LTR. He wasn't the one...When he broke it off. He gave the standard keep in touch we'll go get a beer/dinner......I emailed him in August and invited him out for a beer...we talked on the phone, he gave excuese why he couldn't....no contact since.

Then in Sept of 2005 I got serious about finding someone thru match....I rewrote my profile, improved my pictures, put up some pictures that I knew would get attention, and went on the meet whirlwind. I went on 5 meets one week.....Some of them were horrible.....One I arrived at the coffee shop first and was sitting outside enjoying my latte when the guy came up....he looked nothing like his picture and his facial hair reminded me of devil horns. He went into get his coffee....I called a girlfriend and had her call and save me 15 mins later.....Most of the meets were just dull.....

Labor day I went on the meet that I saw as having the most potential and crossed my fingers...We meet at a coffee shop and talked for 2 hours...he then asked if we could do something that evening....we have been dating since. He is a great guy and we really enjoy and like being around each other.....

IMO....OLD is a numbers game. You need to give as many guys a chance as your sanity will allow. The guy I found is in no way perfect..but neither am I. I believe that chemistry and happiness can grow and expand if given time and encouragement.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 9:22pm


Hello Ladies, just delurking here,I think I used to post a bit here ages ago.
I met my DH online(way back when ICQ was popular) Im in aussie, and he was from the USA, chatted for 9 months, I flew to the USA to meet(in 2000), and we ended up getting married 2 months after that. So for us, we married and move in together way too soon, and didnt get to know each other properly(both want different things out of life, not enough stuff in common). We are separated for the second time and its over for good this time, No regrets at all though.

Fast forward to today, we are still living together until I have money to move out, and just recently Ive gotten myself into another deja vu situation, met this lovely guy in a yahoo chat room.. and once Ive moved out, gotten rid of my past relationship baggage, gonna start talking on the phone, and may decide to meet eventually, this guy is IN my own country this time!

My sister came over with me to the USA, and continued up to canada to meet her online friend, and she ended up marrying him!! and shes living over there near Vancouver today! and one more success story.. My dad got married last year to his online friend, he recently moved to the other side of the country, to be closer to her family/friends.

:)

 

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Registered: 12-18-2005
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 9:29pm
I can't even imagine moving to another country for some dude I met online. I just can't wrap my brain around that one. It happens all the time though. Check out the LDR board.
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Registered: 10-14-2003
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 11:24pm

Currently I live with a guy I met online. We met about three years ago and moved in together this past August.

Met a lot of losers before him and probably wouldn't ever do the OLD thing again. But what we have is working very well so far. I can't speak for him but I'm quite happy. I think he is too.

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Registered: 10-27-2005
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 4:46am

I did Yahoo Personals for a month in March and started again (this time on Match.com) this past November: it is very short time, I know, but I met a total of three guys (in person):

Guy # 1: ended up in a six months relationship: broke up with him (nothing specific to OLD here; could have borken up with a man I met IRL for the same reasons; we are still good friends though, talk on the phone once a month and go out (with other friends, or the two of us, no FBs set up; think is pretty healthy) roughly as often...

Guy # 2: posted about him: man of my dreams, bored me to tears, no chemistry, great guy; wanted to and we managed to stay friends ( I don't get it: all of my exes, and all of my "love interests" who didn't amount to anything more are sitll in my life in one way or another -- and I haven't even been married, so we are not talking about ex-spouses here...)

Guy # 3: I am dating him now: no idea what will come out of it -- tonight was only our third date... but things seem very promising...

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 8:11am

i met this guy on a forum (not made for finding relationships, though there are quite a lot going on there) we talked for one or two months before going out.

About a month later we met up. He stayed with me for a few days, and we got on great. i was really nervous about meeting him, just incase he was nothing like what he was online and was just a complete a**hole, but he wasnt, he was more shy :D

We are still together, and are planning our next meet up. We are talking everyday and are still happy with each other,well at least i am, lol

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Registered: 12-11-2004
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 3:47pm

Good stories everyone, keep them coming.

I have met a few guys online
#1 we only talked for maybe a week, met up and he was a complete creep, he kept looking at my boobs, and body, he seemed to be a real sweetie at first but that was just to hook up, so i told him i had to help a friend out with some problems and left, lol.

#2 This one was really stupid, i took a bus ride for 4 hours to see this guy, we talked for couple months, got along GREAT! So i thought we were meant to be. Met him and he didnt look like his pic at all, he was creepy looking actually, really sweet, but his looks just turned me off, i tried so hard to get past it but i had abouslty no desire for him, so i left to come home and he tried to get ahold of me, but i just told him the truth, that ended that.

I have talked to a few and we have had lots of connections but im taking it slow with the next one, im talking with one right now who just seems the best, we have a connection like no other, we both agreed to take it slow, so we talk everyday and just keeing it mellow, gonna make sure i dont screw this one up, haha, keep my fingers crossed

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Registered: 06-20-2005
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 4:13pm

Best I remember, I've met two guys that I met online.

The first one was near my town and happened about two years ago. He came over, we had dinner and it turned out that he was a pig and I never saw him again after that evening. He kept trying to grope me but all the while, talked about other women so whatever on him. Definitely NOT my type.

Fast forward to today. I have been talking to my Australian guy since the first of July and we met over Christmas. He flew to see me, meet me and my family and spend 16 days with me. It was blissful and, even though he is back in Oz now, we are very much in love and working on the paperwork to get him back over here for good. We talk everyday and have every intention of getting married and being together, where we feel that we belong.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 01-16-2006 - 10:35am

I've been on and off OLD for a little over a year, 4 face to face meets.

#1 Nov 2004, met for minigolf (points for originality!) and found out on 4th date that despite making $150k the previous year, he was flat broke with all his credit maxed out. NEXT!

#2 Dec 2004, pretty compatible personality, just a regular guy, and as such was mainly interested in getting laid. Well, after a month or so I did sleep with him, it was *very* disappointing and I quickly moved on.

#3 April 2005, "perfect on paper" and got along great, things moved quickly, together 6 months. It ended badly when a little argument got blown way out of proportion - and I said fine, I can't be with someone who's that immature about a small conflict.

#4, 2 weeks ago, turns out he's not the slightest bit interested in politics, social issues, current events, which I didn't even know was a dealbreaker until it came up and I immediatly lost all interest. Oh well.

Currently emailing with a high school social studies teacher. :)