Haven't gotten any responses in weeks

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2004
Haven't gotten any responses in weeks
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Fri, 12-22-2006 - 7:41pm

Hey all.. I'm new to the Online Dating board at IVillage. I've posted on other boards though.

Anyways.. I've been doing online dating on Match.com for about 2 months. At first I was getting lots of winks and contacts from guys and guys were also replying to my emails. But I've noticed in the last few weeks that I have hardly gotten any interest at all. Last weekend I sent out emails to prbably 10-15 different guys I was interested in and not a single one has replied to me. I also haven't gotten any new winks or emails from anyone else in a long time. I'm not sure if its just because its so close to the holidays, I'm no longer a new person on match or if I'm not doing something right. I've met quite a few nice people in the last couple of months and one potential "relationship" though I'm just not sure yet. We've only gone out 4 times. All the other guys I just didn't feel any real chemistry with. Do any of you have that problem of sending out messages to several people and getting no response and also no one is contacting you aside from the ocasional wierdo? I'm feeling a little discouraged. What can I do to attract more attention or is this how it usually works (all your responses come in your 1st few weeks online).

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-09-2008
Sat, 12-23-2006 - 2:47am

Hi, even in huge metroplexes sifting through all of the men who fit your criteria can be a quick thing (month long)

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2006
Sat, 12-23-2006 - 9:59am

Have you done a search as the man looking for a woman in your age range? The longer you are on match the further down in the search you go, new people always come up at the top and in my area there seem to be hundreds! I called Match and they have a service, they don't advertise it, called "First Impressions". They don't tell you about it first off, when I told them I wanted to cancel my subscription because I was so far down in the list after being on for 2 months, they told me about it. They will give you a "free trial" for 30 days. First impressions sets you profile to always come up on the first page of a search. When I did this it increased my views and contacts from guys, you may want to try that.

Regarding sending out winks/emails, I have had very little response when doing that. But I still do it occasionally, what's the worse thing that can happen? They don't reply, no big deal.

It also helps to change out your #1 pic, change your headline on your profile and give your profile a total re-write. I really don't have any expectations of meeting a man of substance with OLD, but I'm having lots of fun with it and more dates than I would have otherwise. Good Luck!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2005
Sat, 12-23-2006 - 11:07pm

Have you tried changing out your headline? Makes it a lot easier if you have something clever and non-generic. It's all in the marketing.

Gal Blondie