He completely vanished on me....
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| Wed, 10-18-2006 - 6:39pm |
Hi everyone,
I met this guy for the fist time about two weeks ago. We met for a second date a week ago.
After our first date, he emailed me back right away to tell me that he had loved his date with me. Then when we met again he paid for the whole date and brought me back home. We kissed at the end of the date and he said he would like to see me again and fixed another date.
Then he emailed me back to cancel saying he had a bad cold. He emailed again after that and said he was still feeling sick. Then not a word from him. I had asked him to call me after he felt better.
So anyway, Monday I decided to write to him saying that I did not understand why he had not been in touch with me. I told him that I was sensitive and the fact that he had kissed me and then stopped calling had hurt me. All I wanted to know was why.
Well he never responded to my email. It really hurts and I even though I will never hear back from him, I am just wondering what you think happened.
Thanks,
Gen

Next time something like this happens I wouldn't tell the person that they hurt you and that you are sensitive. I would just ask him if he wanted to meet up again sometime since you hadn't heard from him and if he didn't respond to that then there is your answer. When we show others early on that something bothers us like this it gives them the upper hand in a way and they may see this as coming off needy in the beginning. I think in the early dating stages it's smart to keep your wits about you and your emotions in check. Therefore you don't attach too much hope or emotion in the beginning. It's good to show a little bit be smart and protect yourself and really try to get to know the person first before getting invested in them. I know it's hard to accept someone being inconsiderate or flakey and it hurts the ego and unfortunately hit happens quite a bit especially with OLD. Keep on at it. I'm taking the OLD thing VERY slowly now since I've had so many disappointments.
Thanks everyone,
I really appreciate all your nice comments and advice.
What really hurts is that we had spoken on the phone for two weeks before meeting. He was really understanding and he let me confide in him and everything, so I grew attached to him.
I don't understand why he just didn't say he was not interested instead of sending two emails letting me know he had a bad cold.
Thanks for caring,
Gen
OMG! Your incident sounds identical to mine! Maybe we met the same guy! I'm still hurt and confused with what happened with my 'date' as well.
We talked for two weeks, met up for lunch once then went out for dinner the following week. I thought he was sooo nice and that he liked me. I thought he was a great guy. After dinner, he said he would call the next day.... He hasn't called. I even sent an email to say hi a few days after the dinner date... no reply.
He even blocked my profile on the dating site! He is on there all the time now.
I would've really appreciated if he was upfront and honest with me and told me he didn't think it would work, instead of leaving me confused and guessing.
Hello Reggie,
Well take my lead....
I decided to forget about him and this time I have another date tomorrow.
This time however, I am not going to get attached too quickly.
I will keep in touch and let you all know how my date went.
Hugs,
Gen