He does not chat with me

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Registered: 09-09-2003
He does not chat with me
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Wed, 11-30-2005 - 10:48pm

I know the answer I will get. But still would like some explanation if anyone can provide one.

We went out couple of times. He always called and was v. interested and made plans for Xmas vacation... Then he travelled and promised will meet 3 weeks from now... cool. I thought we will be chatting on MSN in the meantime.
well it s been 10 days he left and we only chatted twice both was me who initiated the chat and they were v. general chats and short ones (understandable kuz we both are at work) He is not busy in the office. And he told me he chats all the time with friends and family

He never contacts me by himself. so I m wondering does that mean he is not interested anymore? I was planning to wait for his come back kuz I really liked him a lot b4 I scrap him but with this stuff going on I m considering dropping him from now and not meeting him when he is back. I dont want soemone who is not willing to make an effort when he is away.
I m chatting with another guy and would really like to meet him sometime... in 3 weeks I will probably be so not interested in meeting the first guy I hope!

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 8:44am
Not everyone likes to chat with future dates. Lay off and see what happens when this man returns from wherever he is.
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Registered: 06-01-2005
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 10:19am

I don't think he is interested Juliara.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 4:57pm
Is this the same guy that you thought was lying when he went out of town and you told him basically "have a nice life" and then when he came back you had second thoughts becuase his friend told you he really was out of town (whew!)? If so, I'd lay off and go for the other guy and continue to meet others. I think he has probably either lost interest or is too busy right now and as such unavailable. He sounds like he's got a lot going on with all his travel but as Jodie said, if he really was interested, he would contact you. So let him do it, if he doesn't, oh well.

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 8:42am
wow you have a great memory here!
yeah he is the same guy. we met few times after he came back and I told him there was a misunderstanding ... we really enjoy each other's company plus he told me we will spend Xmas together and now we don chat! I may decide to travel with my best friend on Xmas. I would definiely postpone the trip if he is still planning to spend time together but he has to tell me something while there at least which he does not.
I dont know if I should just ask him. I dont want head games and I really want to treat him as a friend so Im thinking I will contact him and ask how come he doesnot chat with me.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 12:50pm

Don't put your life on hold because of this guy who seems to be drifting off. Go on your trip with your friend and don't think twice about it. And if he comes back next week and says something, well, too bad! He needs to be more attentive.

I suggest you do not contact him. You've kinda gone psycho on him once due to a misunderstanding. If you do this again, he is really going to wonder about you and your reactions to things. Sure, you might like him but don't put all your eggs in this basket or even in with the other guy. Meet the other guy too and continue to find other guys. Putting too much stock in these relationships before they are solid yet is a big mistake.

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 4:02pm
I tend to agree with the other posters- don't put your life on hold for him or any man for that matter. Definately date/chat/flirt with other guys,.... if he's "the one" then things will eventually fall into place... not to sound cliche... Good luck.