He freaked on me now what???

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Registered: 01-21-2007
He freaked on me now what???
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Sun, 01-21-2007 - 12:11pm
I had a guy tell me that I could talk to him about anything no holds barred and so he and I had some pretty intense conversations...he told me things about his current situation that his new gf was not caring and emotional and I told him about all my stuff going on even some private things too....he had been cheated on by his exwife and so on ....so we have been emailing and such talking on the phone and IM....I have given him advice...the problem started when...I had sent him a message in regards to a dream that I had of him about him sitting in his car and weeping with his head in his hands...and it actually had happened that way..so I think I scared him with that information....as well as he had gone to Cabo alone(after he met his gf)I had a another dream that he got me a bag in Cabo so I told him when he got back home... dont forget my bag from Cabo thats on your kitchen counter...he said how did you know that? I have never been to his house at all... So I have double freaked him out now he wont have anything to do with me...he said he doesnt have time to talk to me...and that we should cut all ties...so time goes by and it is weird because I still continue to see him(we work at the same place) he says hello and even sent me a message to have a merry christmas and be careful(we have had terrible storms here lately) then when I send him a message back he doesnt respond....this osolates back and forth from time to time...It is weird...so why is he doing this? I do beleive there was some attraction there too...we connected on some level and then it scared him? What do you think?
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Registered: 04-09-2008
Sun, 01-21-2007 - 3:04pm

I think it is obvious what happened. He probably finally realized what he was doing. Think about it... he got cheated on by his X wife. And then look at him, going behind is gf's back having private deep conversations with a woman who feels there is attraction and a connection there. It isn't wrong at all for him to go the other way. Especially if he remembers what being cheated on felt like. Right?


You need to move on! Next time don't go for the men who have a girlfriend/wife. I don't know how you got yourself in that situation. There has to be boundaries there that you respect and any man willing to cross those boundaries is trash anyway. Don't be willing to be a party to that. Would you want your bf going behind your back like that?

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Registered: 01-21-2007
Sun, 01-21-2007 - 4:09pm
he wasnt with anyone when we started talking thought I stated that.it was a freak encounter that they met someone from his pastwhi use to be friends with his wife... they saw each other at a rock concert and now I have found out its over so maybe there was something there all along but he didnt want to hurt me or her so guess that is a good thing....he has a bunch of female friends not just me that he talks too....