He has a high, nasal, old-sounding voice

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He has a high, nasal, old-sounding voice
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Fri, 12-22-2006 - 9:50pm

My west coast friend called today. He was just as interesting and amusing on the phone as he is in e-mail. But his voice was a real disappointment.

I'm telling myself I shouldn't be so picky. The guy is obviously intelligent, very lively and interesting, apparently successful in his career, etc. Does he have to have a great speaking voice also?

We talked for a long time. After the initial shock of his voice, I got used to it. Sort of. After about 45 minutes I ended the conversation with an excuse that I had to do something. I thought 45 min was long enough, and I wanted to think.

So--- I don't know. We agreed that he will call me again Sunday (Christmas Eve). He talked some more of what we would do when he came in town. (I had to insist that we meet just for lunch or coffee the first time and then a proper dinner date for the next time. That way if we don't hit it off in person...)

I like him. He's interesting and fun to talk to. He seems a decent guy who could be a friend. I'm just not sure that I can be attracted to a man with such a high nasal voice. I'm also wondering if he really is only 55 because he sounded more like over 70 on the phone.

Oh well. I am disappointed, but I knew it was too good to be true. However, I will give it a chance. Maybe on Sunday he will sound better.

Elsa

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Tue, 12-26-2006 - 6:19pm

Hi Vexer,

My best hope is that it is the "metalic" sound on the phone that makes him sound old-ish. I know that he uses a speaker phone, which will often distort voices. SO he may just have a high voice, but not necessarily as nasal or "old" as it sounded.

He continues to be charming--he wrote me a lovely e-mail yesterday, just one paragraph saying how happy he is to have "met" me because he enjoys talking (e-mailing) to me so much and how he looks forward to our meeting in person.

I do hope we become friends, even if the romantic spark doesn't hit, because this seems a really decent person.

Elsa

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Tue, 12-26-2006 - 6:27pm

Hi Biochic! So glad to hear your story. Yes, part of the problem is definitely the problem you had--I expected a man like this to have a deeper voice. Also, I think the "nasal" sound may be partly the speakerphone. But still...

I am glad to know that you found a guy who is wonderful in all respects except the voice. I am certainly not going to be so ridiculous as not to meet the guy and see how the whole "package" feels. Voice isn't everything, and I am not exactly flawless myself.

Thanks for the encouragement, and good luck to you!

Elsa

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Tue, 12-26-2006 - 11:22pm

You cracked me up when you said he sounded more like 70 on the phone ;)

I once called a guy I was talking to online and I swear he had the *weirdest* laugh ever, it was like a little girl's laugh... I mean, those kinds of laughs are cute - on little girls, lol. Needless to say, we were incompatible, but it wasn't just because of his voice.

Have you met yet? How was the 2nd phone call?

Maria

 

 

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Wed, 12-27-2006 - 9:36am

Hi Maria,

I spoke to him briefly on Christmas Eve, but we were mostly playing telephone tag. A problem with being in different time zones is that the "window" of time when both are free to talk is fairly small. This is less of a problem when you know each other well-enough to just plunge into conversation, but when you are still at the "let's get acquainted" stages, it's complicated. He'll probably phone today.

We won't meet until he comes into town in a couple of weeks to do some stuff connected to his job. Eventually he is supposed to relocate to this area.

The voice is a real disappointment, but not a deal breaker. What may be deal breakers are extreme obesity and/or if it turns out he really lied about his age.

I can't know until we meet. In the meantime, I am pursuing the friendship over the phone (when we can) and in e-mail. I am glad we switched to phone for two reasons: one is that I got to hear his voice (a reality check I needed) and the other is that voice/real time communication gives more of a sense of the real person. With e-mail or web posts you can control the person you project better.

I'll keep you all posted.

But I wish there were someone else on the horizon. All the other guys who have contacted me (and a few whom I contacted) have turned out to be not right in some way.

Elsa

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Wed, 12-27-2006 - 11:44am

"A problem with being in different time zones is that the "window" of time when both are free to talk is fairly small."

Oh yeah, tell me about it!!

I hope that your prince charming comes along soon ;)

Maria

 

 

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