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He has a *spreadsheet*
| Sun, 01-01-2006 - 10:22pm |
Apologizes for the multiple posts tonight, but I've just been talking to a guy from Yahoo - and this beats everything I've ever seen.
He has a spreadsheet.
The first column lists his "ideal woman". Subsequent columns are for the women he meets online - a scorecard, I suppose.
And I don't think it's a joke.


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I've read lots of online dating advice that suggest this... helps you keep track when dating multiple people.
There is a book called "How to Date Like a Man" that offers this up, too - the premise is that you make the list BEFORE you go out so you keep sight of the qualities that you are looking for by checking them off the list after the date.
That way you don't get blindsided by the hottie with the drinking problem.
I don't think I'd tell my DATES about it, however...
T
Um, he's just taking a scientific approach to finding himself a woman.
I know somebody who had a rating system. He dated hundreds of women. He was good looking, intelligent and relatively nice guy. He also made good money and lived in NYC where there were many available pretty women. He married a pretty heiress to a mayonnaise fortune. I am really not kidding about this guy.
He lives in a huge house out in Connecticut now.
Um, he's just taking a scientific approach to finding himself a woman.
I don't know, I've never had trouble keeping people straight.
I don't think I explained the spreadsheet very well - the first column was his ideal woman, weight, height, education, hair color, etc, and then how the women did against that.
It's not something you should be SHOWING your dates. That's just rude and shallow.
>I've read lots of online dating advice that suggest
>this... helps you keep track when dating multiple people.
You are dating too many people if you need a spreadsheet to keep track of them all....how RIDICULOUS!!
I completely disagree. When I am in communication stage with several guys, I often have a hard time keeping them all straight and what I have said to who and who said what to me, what they do, where they live, if they have kids, yadda, yadda. When you are trying to get to know several people at once, it is VERY difficult to keep all the facts straight. So I don't see anything wrong with keeping a spreadsheet to keep them straight.
I also don't see much wrong with this guy's spreadsheet and it sounds very similar to what chamey was talking about. Yes, I am sure he is far too picky and may never find taht "ideal" but to have a list of characteristics you are looking for and to compare each person you meet to that list of characteristics? Well, honestly, isn't that what we ALL do? Mabe not in quite this way, but everyone has their "ideal" is and aren't we all out to find it and compare each person we have to what we're looking for? But yes, I also don't think I would TELL my dates about it. That is rude. But to do it in the first place? Just a more accurate and detailed way of what everyone does when they are dating.
I've done the "too many dates in two weeks" sort of thing as well and kept a note card (not an actual spreadsheet) such as:
Joe, 34, Hermosa Beach, Lawyer
Kevin 37, Calabasas, Real Estate Agent
Tom, 36, Santa Monica, Finance Guy
However, I will say usually when I'm dating like this (a lot of guys) I never meet anyone, it's usually when things are slow and one pops out of nowhere......
I would say in short, it's quality not quantity and you don't need to be a serial dater to find a guy or girl to be in a relationship with. When you date like this guy it takes away the "fun" and "excitement" of dating. I find when I have dates like that it becomes work and I start to not look forward to another meeting. I'd rather wait and get a feel for someone and usually I can tell on the phone, I get that "feeling"....and more times then not it's right on the money.
Also I do believe people new to OLD will go crazy and date like crazy but the downside is they will be constantly looking for the BBD and no one will satisfy them...
Cheers,
SP
PS However, you can still have a couple of dates (not putting all eggs in one basket)just you don't want to go overboard where it's all scientific; I don't believe matters of the heart work that way.....
Perhaps if more of us used a spreadsheet it would keep us better on track. For example, I see several women on other dating boards that are very busy giving Mr. Loser one last chance to "see where things go". If they had a spread sheet and could check things off like:
1. Gainfully employed
2. No criminal history
3. Single and available, ie. not married
4. No alcoholism or drug addiction
Perhaps they could see that their current beau may not be the guy for them. Heck, I know people that keep track of their bowel movements, how much of a stretch is it to keep track of a few dates?
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