Is he Interested?
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| Fri, 07-15-2005 - 10:37am |
Scenario
I met a guy (we both are 44 yo) on OLD and we conversated briefly on the phone/email and quickly decided to meet in person since when I initially met him he had taken down his profile due to frustration. Ironically he had contacted me through Instant Messenger and I replied since I saw his picture (he was cute!). Anyway last Saturday (worked extra hours) while on his way to work we met at the KFC for a brief "meet and greet"! Based upon the conversation, we were both attracted to each other and wanted to communicate further. Steady eye-to-eye contact -- I mean I was really intrigued by him. He stated his days off are Saturday, Sunday and Monday.
So, I get home and had an IM message from him which basically said "what's up lady??". By the time I responded, he was offline and I said "enjoyed meeting you and look forward to talking soon." On Tuesday, I called him and left him a voice mail message to see how his week was going. Last night I had a hair appointment and when I got home he had called but didn't leave a message. This morning from work, I called and left him a message stating, "sorry I missed your call, want to talk with you again, and also asked him about his availability this weekend". Left my work number for a return call.
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Lil Background
I know when I met him he was truly frustrated by his OLD experience, stating women were not really serious about wanting an LTR. He made reference to the fact that women post profiles on various sites -- being conservative on one site and provocative on another site. He doesn't have a problem with conservative/provocative -- but be the same on ALL sites.
Also, since my son is away for the summer, I have been a social butterfly. He has made small comments -- for instance, the few times we were online at the same time he may send an IM saying "Hello Lady" and I would respond "hey, just getting ready to walk out the door, blah, blah," and he would respond "of course, should have known." During this time though wasn't really trying to sit at the computer and conversate for long periods of time since we had not met yet. I have DSL and now click off the IM when I'm not online.
Also, we had tried to hook up sooner than last Saturday for a "meet and greet" but I had other plans.
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Problem
Do you think he is interested in me? Bothered by my "social butterfly" status -- or thinks that I may be dating various OLD guys?? Is his frustration getting the best of him -- so he is not making much of an effort? Could be all of the above, but of course, HJNITY???
I must admit that I'm doing a bit more than usual (staying in touch) because I have been so unavailable and want to give him a sense that I'm not out there in the streets with other men since I met him and truly find him interesting and would like to know more about him. Yes, other men are writing to me, but I'm not trying to meet them because my mind is on him! DARN!!! (smile)
Your thoughts??

I think you are giving him far too much attention than
CL-Truewild1969
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I re-read the op, and I can't see where "flaky" is indicated!
You wrote: "Whats the point of trying to get to know someone when their too busy with their neatly catagorized "social butterfly" lifestyle? Theres is no point for him to continue communicating with you if he can't simply get a hold of you".
The purpose of communicating in an OLD situation is to make plans to meet; he has made contact with her but he has not asked for time. Although he has been a bit snide, "I should have known" or whatever the comment he made was.
BTW, I don't consider IMing someone communicating with them. The OP said it all - she's got too much to do to waste time fiddling about on the computer. All the power to her!
OP, I agree with the other post, you are doing too much and he's not doing enough.
amjay
Update.......
You guys are absolutely right......I was doing way too much! Anyhow, he did contact me on Friday night (around 11:30 pm) for conversation and to see if he could possibly come over and give me a massage. What an idiot!! Mind you he called stating the reason he called me at 11:30 pm cause he was trying to catch me before I hit the streets! Uh? This guy is truly a LOSER!!!
I told him I wasn't interested and although he ended the call stating he would call me the next day (Saturday); he never called all weekend! Thank God! We are definitely NOT on the same page..............NEXT!!!