Is he Interested or not??

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Registered: 09-08-2006
Is he Interested or not??
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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 12:06pm

Hi everyone,

I am back on the dating scene after about a year of not dating, so I just feel like im a little "rusty" lol And last night I had my first "real date" in a long time, and I want you guys' opinions on whether or not he sounds interested or not…

We talked on the phone a couple of times (one of the times was a very long conversation). We had a very nice time on the phone each time and decided to meet. We met yesterday evening for the first time. So we met at TGI Friday's around 9pm and had a drink and talked for a while. We were getting along pretty well and after we got sick of being in Fridays for that long, he said "what should we do now?" meaning that he wanted to go do something else (we had already spoken about how we both act when its not going well and that you have your drink and go your separate ways). We ended up going to play a few games of pool. It seemed like we were both having a nice time, laughing, etc. He was flirting a little (hit me in the butt with the pool stick when I was shooting) lol… But in a playful way. Then we left the pool hall and he took me back to my car. On the way back on the drive back to fridays, he was holding my hand the whole time in the car. Then at a red light he leaned over and gave me a quick little kiss. When we got to fridays we said goodbye, told each other we had a really nice time, he said he'd like to see me again and I said so would I, and he gave me one more goodbye kiss and I left. On the way home my phone rang. It was him. He said "listen, I just want to tell you that I had a REALLY (he stressed the word really) good time with you and I would like to see you again" He also said "I also wanted to tell you that your eyes are stunning" lol I said "I told you they were blue" and he said "I know, but they're like, a stunning blue".. He was very nice and a gentleman all night and I would definitely like to see him again. Now here's where the questions come, because from that description there would be no question in my mind that he's interested, but this is why I'm double thinking that….

This morning I sent him a comment on myspace (that's how we met and we always send comments) that was a funny comment and I wrote "thanks again for last night, have a great day". He sent me a comment back that said "hope you have a good day". Now, usually we go back and forth with text messages A LOT. Today he hasn’t sent me one message which I find odd. Especially since I sent him one that said "how's your day going? Slow day here. Are you keeping a lookout for my white car? Lol" (that's an inside joke that all of you will not understand) - but normally I would get a message right back from him joking back with me. I havent gotten anything. I see that he's been on and off of myspace, so I know its not because he's busy, and we both have verizon so I can see that he did read the message. I just have a feeling that now maybe he's showing signs that he's not interested. What do you all think?? What should I do?? I also don’t want to push him away by bothering him because I know he has stopped talking to people because of that too.

Jacki

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 12:17pm

I hope I am wrong, but I have found that a man can say and do all of the right things...totally has you believing he's very interested, even SAYING he is interested and then he does a vanishing act. Read some of the other threads on this board. It's the same song and dance only with different men. Men can lie without batting an eye. They change their mind with little conscience as to the woman's feelings and leave her hanging. They don't have the balls to be upfront with the woman, so they vanish.

I sincerely HOPE that is not the case with this guy, but be prepared for that to be the outcome. If it is not, then you will be pleasantly surprised.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 12:58pm

IMO, it's not even been a day yet!

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