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| Sat, 01-06-2007 - 1:07pm |
okay, i have been online dating for a few months now. every single person i have gone out with has called for a second date, but i haven't been interested in any of them.
last night i had a terrific TERRIFIC date. we met to go play a game of tennis. it was really fun, we talked for a long time like 2 hours, and on the way home we live in completely different directions. he started to walk in my direction which is the opposite of his direction. we were talking and talking and talking. very comfortable. then i asked if he wanted to sit on a bench which we were passing because he was so far out of the way from his house at this point that i felt bad. he suggested we go for a beer or coffee. we passed a place, went in and then he asked if i wanted to have dinner. we sat and had dinner and the conversation was great. after dinner he offered to walk me home which is even further away from his house. i thought at this point, we had been out for 4.5 hrs which is pretty darn good for a blind date/online date. i thought he was interested since he kept trying to extend the date. i said goodnight, said it was so much fun, etc. but he never said "lets do this again"
in all my other online dates, the guys were trying to seal another date before the first one was over
today i sent him a light and short email. i told him it was really fun and it was great meeting him. he wrote right back saying he had such a great time and was so glad we finally got to go out. yet again didn't say lets do it again. its weird. the date was so long because he kept extending it, yet he didn't mention going out again.
what do i do? do you think he is interested? and if so would he have said "lets do it again?"

Well, my experience is the same as yours...that if a guy is really interested, he'll try to firm up a 2nd date while you're still on the 1st.
He could just be one of those guys who can't stand spending any part of an evening alone and so that's why he kept extending the date. Who knows!!! But he knows you're interested in seeing him again, so if he's interested as well, he'll set another date up.
In the meantime, keep emailing and meeting new guys so you're not so focused on this one guy.
Sheri
thanks
Oaky what I meant with my original post was - you just met the guy last night, and there are no hard and fast rules with men. Sherry has had her experiences; with mine there was no correlational evidence between these variables at all. Some of the guys I went out with made future plans; some didn't. Of those two groups, some called later and some ghosted. I could never tell.
What I'm trying to say is that you can't read a guy's mind and they definitely don't work the way we (women) do. The best you can do is what you already did - you left him a light message. The good news with that is that he responded back immediately. Now you just sit back and see if he calls you (because it's his turn now). It may be a few days before he calls. It may be a week. Guys don't have the same concept with time as we do. But obsessing over it will only make you a miserable wreck.
So just sit back and see what happens. But I do agree that you should not be putting all of your eggs into one basket. You should still be out there and dating around. It's too easy to pin your hopes on someone only to be let down in the end.
but to me "lets talk soon" is still kind of a blow off no? he wasn't like, lets make a plan, etc. i know i am reading into it but i actually loved our date. children the same age and he was NICE.
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I think you're being negative. He could have not contacted you at all. But he did, and not only did he contact you, but he also let you know up front that he's going to be running around in the next week so if contact was sparse, for you not to worry too much about it.
I think you're trying to set yourself up for rejection. Have you had many bad experiences with guys? Because it sounds a lot like a case of self-fulfilling prophecy.
Edited 1/8/2007 12:22 am ET by neadvice