is he single?

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Registered: 11-08-2004
is he single?
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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 1:44pm

I've been dating a guy from Match about once a week, very formal dinners for a few months now (6 or 7 dates) and I just can't help wondering if he's as available as he says he is.

Anything I can do?

thanks

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 1:46pm
Ask?
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Registered: 09-09-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 1:51pm
What clues are leading you to think he's not single? Have you been to his house?
hello
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Registered: 10-26-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 1:56pm

Hi BC,

Do you have his home number and cell number? Does he email you at the same time, oftne only late at night, or Only from the office? Have you been to His home is about the best one given here, too! Ask to GO to his home and see if he crawfishes..if he starts that backwards crawl of "umm, well, it is a mess..." then you know he might be having you as a side dish, as he already Has a main course!

Good luck!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 1:57pm
A few months???? ummm, do you talk while you're at these dinners? We need more info on this. What makes you think he's not 'single'??
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Registered: 11-08-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 1:57pm

No, I haven't been to his house.

Yes, he told me he's single.

He gave me a cell phone number, but never answers when I call (I don't call very much, mostly to confirm date or if I miss his call). I never see him before 8:30pm - ever. He always comes to my town, never to his and we don't live that far apart (15-20 min). He hasn't mentioned where he works, names of any friends.

Maybe it's nothing but I'm just wondering.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-03-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 2:04pm

Checked my internal "is he attached" questionnaire and the answer is YES!!

If you like the guy, talk to him about this situation. You want to see where he lives, you want to know what he does for a living.

Better yet, I would drop him immediately. After several months he should know whether you are a good match for him and begin to share personal information with you.

Please let us know what you decide.

amjay

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 2:07pm

Chica!
It is time you start Asking some of these questions--this info Should have come out in natural conversation by this time! Does he know these things about You; such as where you work? It sounds like he has a s.o. (significant other) that goes to work about 7:30, so that puts him on the roads soon after.

I do not push for information, but if it is not forthcoming on its' own, it does raise red flag-age with me. Time you all crossed the border, and went somewhere in His neck of the woods too!

Ask and ye shall receive!

Good luck
Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 09-09-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 3:17pm
Umm! Red Flags going off everywhere! I think it's about time you find out pronto! I wouldn't do a frontal attack - I'd do some investigative questioning. I am sure the others here would have some great advise as to what to ask him, but basically I'd be sitting to dinner with him and ask to stop by his place some time. See what he does - do you two only go out on certain nights? In my mind - there's alot to be concerned over! Good luck and please keep us posted!
hello
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 3:54pm

>> He hasn't mentioned where he works, names of any friends.<<

You've been out a number of times and he hasn't said where he WORKS?

You're kidding, right? Of course he's attached if that's the case- NOBODY can go out several times without mentioning where they work.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 4:21pm
Red flags out the wazoo, honey! By 6 or 7 dates and a couple of months, you should know someone relatively well. You barely know anything about this guy except his name! Are you ASKING questions about his work, family and friends? Most men like to talk about themselves and tell you all about everything (I mean this in a good way - men like to share details about their lives with women they like). UNLESS they have something to hide. You could Google him or check out your local public records online. He sounds really fishy to me and I don't think I would be comfortable in your situation just letting this slide.

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