is he too good to be true??
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| Fri, 11-03-2006 - 9:29am |
Hi ladies!
I've been corresponding with a new guy I met on CL for the past 2 days and so far, I like what he has to say. He's looking for a woman who wants more than a casual hook up; who wants a LTR; etc.
Thing is, he's very handsome, a little older than me (I'm in my mid30s), has never been married before and has no children. Is that a red flag right there? I mean, is this too good to be true? For goodness sake, he's cute! And never been married?! There's gotta be some type of flaw with him and I can't seem to find it.
This guy might knock out my "obsession" with my "cyber sex dude" finally, but "cyber sex dude" still has some qualities I'm looking for that new guy may not have...like, "cyber sex dude" is highly educated. New guy might have some college under him. "Cyber sex dude" has some "geekish" qualities to him which I find quite attractive. New guy is...well, he's cute and that might mean out of my league. I'm scared to ask him what physical qualities in a woman is he searching for because I know his type most probably has to be petite (which I'm not).
Have I struck gold this time around? Or is this just too good to be true?

Well, gosh, he probably has LOTS of flaws, being HUMAN and all!!!
If you are expecting to find "perfect" you are going to be sorely disapponted every time.
I personally don't think it's necessarily a red flag if someone is in their late 30s and never married. If he's never had a serious LTR, on the other hand, then I might wonder, but it wouldn't be a dealbreaker, I'd just want to find out more.
But as corbeach says, nothing's real until you meet. Get offline and get a cup of coffee and see what he's like in real life!
As for your body type, I find it works best to be upfront in your ad and photos about that and let the guy decide for himself.
Sheri
Indeed he did have some committment phobe issues, but he also seemed to be ready to finally make the leap.
The reason I bring this up is that timing is everything. Even if your chap has not been ready for marriage before, it does not mean he can't be now. If he truly falls for you, all history goes by the wayside.
Good luck!