HE winked...but....& theory regarding...

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Registered: 05-25-2003
HE winked...but....& theory regarding...
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Sat, 05-07-2005 - 8:51pm

I've been on this board in the past month complaining (at times) why no one was responding to my e-mails/winks....(I have a theory about that down below)...

So he winked......after reading his profile I sent back a short email....mentioned two things that we had in common....a few days later he sent back an email apologizing for taking a few days to get back to me.....HE mentioned the things I had mentioned...and then said "what else do you want to know about me?"........this annoys me.....DO ANY MEN TALK?!?! OFFER ANYTHING?!?!....lol......he has 1/2 as much info on his profile than I do....and I'm supposed to ask the questions?!?!......any thoughts on this?.....by the way....his email address has the word "chick" in it............

My theory regarding no reply to winks/emails:
If they aren't a member, only have the profile up....maybe they don't want to spend the $30 or $20 bucks to reply to an email?.....any thoughts?

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Sat, 05-07-2005 - 10:34pm

Re your theory, I always assume that they aren't members and that's why they are not replying to me ;-)! I'm sure it's true in at least *some* of the cases.

I've gotten that "so what else do you want to know" line before...whether I respond with more questions totally depends on how impressed I am with their profile. Some people just aren't good at the give and take thing over email; he might be better in person. Or sometimes, if I really like his profile, I'll write back and say, "I don't really like to try to get to know someone by email. My number is...., feel free to call me so we can talk on the phone and decide if it makes sense to meet for a cup of coffee."

But, if I'm so-so about him, I probably wouldn't bother to respond to an email like that.

Sheri

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Registered: 05-25-2003
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 11:05pm
Thanks, Sheri....you always make sense.......I e-mailed him back...but I'm not counting my chickens before they hatch.....
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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sun, 05-08-2005 - 9:53am
Now, why would someone wink when they can't email since they don't have a subscription? I don't have a subscription, but I have my email address in my profile. Mind you, that would mean that guys would actually have to read my profile. Hasn't happened yet. I'll let you know!
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Sun, 05-08-2005 - 11:33am

Well, I do it hoping a guy will email me and figure out a way to hide his email address in his response (since Match strips out email addresses in emails sent to non-subscribers).

Or they might do it in order to see if there are enough women who show some interest in them to make it worthwhile to join.

Sheri