Heard a really horrible thing

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Heard a really horrible thing
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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 11:01am

I forgot to mention this from the other night when I went to the 8at8 dinner but as there was no chemistry at all among any of us, our conversation turned to both the service itself and OLD. One of the women in the group said that she knows a group of guys that will post fake profiles and pictures on Match that sound really great just to mess with women and see how many responses they can get. She said they have a contest to see who can get the most responses to their profile and that some are even married. They think it is "funny" to mess with them that way.

I was so upset that anyone would actually purposely screw someone over but to be honest after thinking on it, I am not surprised. People can often be very cruel. It makes me sad that there are people out there that are this insensitive and callous tho. It really makes me question OLD even more. Very disheartening.

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 11:33am

Yes, you have to be careful. I think the internet makes it easier for people to have affairs or keep dating even after meeting someone they really like especially if you're new to it. Think of the first time you went to an on line site, at least for me, I thought, wow, look at all these great guys, why go to a bar when I can do it at home like this. Heck, I rememeber once I think I had 4-5 dates in a week, a couple of back to back dates. If I was single again I'd never do that, quality vs. quantity but for men it's probably even more entising. I also hear as many guys use it to just get some action the women do too. I've heard stories from some of my male friends and you'd be surprised. Gals that will give it up on the first date w/out even knowing the guy -- not that there's anything wrong with that, not my personal style but it's just a point I'm making.

Use your best judgement; try and read between the lines and have fun!!!

SP

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 11:34am

Oh, I have no doubt that people of both sexes do that kind of thing.

I dated a gal who had a fake profile posted, with a really hot girl's picture, to see if her present dates would click on it and contact the fake one. Kind of a little test to see how honest a guy is, or something.

We wound up not dating much longer after I found that out. Of course, at least that wasn't as bad as posting a fake profile to jerk people's chain, but I have no doubt that there's both women and men who do that, too.

It does make one thing easier- when you send an email off and never hear back from someone, you can tell yourself that it's probably one of those fakes and that's why they don't respond. :)

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 12:02pm
I don't doubt that women post fake pictures or profiles but the part that makes this particularly bad is that she said the men don't ever have any intention of meeting the women that contact them. They are deliberately and maliciously putting fake profiles out "to mess with women". They think it is hilarious. So it isn't a test, it is a cruel joke to play with people. I am not saying that what that woman did was right, but to me, this is SO much more wrong and cruel. She said that these guys also will respond back to the emails just for kicks to see how long they can get it to go on. Awful!

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 1:08pm

>>these guys also will respond back to the emails just for kicks to see how long they can get it to go on.

Yeah, but 3 emails and then meet will completely eliminat this.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 3:53pm

I'm not saying this has happened to me so yes, anyone that has come out on this board wouldn't let it go on too long, but how many newbies or even non-newbies do we have that come out here that say "We've been talking over email for the last 3, 6, 12 months and he seems so wonderful..."

In a perfect world where everyone followed the good rules, this would not go on for long but these guys can string some poor girl along indefinitely.

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 4:12pm

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 5:33pm
Yeah my last bf who just walked out on us, forgot to tell us he was still married. I met him online and after months of him asking to move in I allowed it only to come home to a note shortly after. Not even taking the time to explain to my daughter who HE claimed as HIS own. (I thought and so did everyone eles that we were getting married) LOL He already is. Yes, he had his own place... SO I lived the married man lie...
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Registered: 05-31-2003
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 5:57pm

Vex,

Call me jaded, cynical, whatever, but somehow that does not surprise me in the least.

ABM

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 6:12pm
Oh no, I agree. The more I thought about it, the less it surprises me. But I do think it is awful that anyone out there could be so cruel as to toy with emotions like that.

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 8:42pm
I wonder about the age of men (men?) who would do that? I think the ones who would laugh about it together must be young. I can't see men in their 50s getting together and planning schemes like that. I can imagine a man in his 50s exaggerating, however.

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