Heeee's Baaaaa-aack!

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Heeee's Baaaaa-aack!
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Fri, 02-25-2005 - 2:54pm

Guess who I heard from today. Yup, Mr. Metrosexual-Late-Phone-Call Guy. He left a message because he couldn't get through by email (you know, since I had blocked him through the site). He said he wanted to explain why he'd called that late and apologize. He said he had called that late because he wanted to call and that I had told him that "my phone would be turned off". I rechecked the emails I had sent and I never said that my phone would be off so he either confused me with someone else or made that up to cover his hide.

Also, he said he wanted to make me an "offer". He has tickets to a couple concerts and the opera in the next few weeks and wanted to know that if as mature adults we could meet and go to one together. OK, ya'll know me fairly well. Do I seem like an opera girl? And as far as concerts - in the last couple of years, I have been to the Rolling Stones, the Dixie Chicks, Barenaked Ladies and Barry Manilow. I also bought tix for Christina Aguilera but she cancelled the date. So you can see my music tastes are... ohhh, shall we say... cheesy? I'm thinking the kind of concerts he is talking about are not really my thing.

He ALSO tells me how the last few months have been really tough because he lost his mother in August. Just kind of throws that in.

I am not enticed in the slightest to go out with him or even call him back. If he'd told me he had Mavs tickets (basketball) or Desperados tickets (arena football), I might have at least thought about it. But this 1) confirms that he is SO metrosexual 2) he didn't really bother to read my profile well or my emails and 3) the throwing in the mother passing away for a sympathy thing... I don't know how to react to that. I don't doubt that his mother has passed away, but why bring it up in this message unless you are looking for sympathy and trying to play on someone's emotions? I may seem like a callous bi$&*, but that was really not necessary.

Am I being a horrible person? I still really don't want to call him back. He becomes less attractive with each thing he does and says. I don't care if he calls me names and thinks I am a horrible person. I don't know him and he obviously knows nothing about me so I couldn't care less what he thinks. I am just annoyed at this situation.

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Fri, 02-25-2005 - 3:04pm
You Rock Girl! LOL Not being a B*@ch either. Why do they think they can treat us like crap on the bottom of their shoes then dangle carrots..... LOL Stay strong stay true to YOU!
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Registered: 07-31-2004
Fri, 02-25-2005 - 3:15pm

If you talk to him, email him or even go out with him, I will lose faith in all womankind. He's an a$$!

Lisa

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 02-25-2005 - 3:52pm
Ummm.....eeew.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 02-25-2005 - 3:57pm

Sort of. When I said that 11:30 was too late to call (giving him a chance to explain at THAT time or to apologize), he didn't say he was sorry or explain. Instead, he razzed me that I "obviously hadn't listened to his message" because he'd asked me to call him back.

And don't worry lisa! I won't give you reason to lose faith in womankind! I have NO intention of going out with him or even calling. I just wanted confirmation that ignoring him at this point does not make me an evil person. :-)

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Registered: 01-29-2005
Fri, 02-25-2005 - 4:28pm

Hey Vex,

I just got back myself to read this - feels like I never was gone LOL!

ugh - part of me wants to say that perhaps this guy just has trouble dealing with rejection, and that he wants to get you to like him, so he could do the moving on first.

some guys are like that - sucks, doesn't it?

anyway, that may not be the case, but for some reason reading that, i thought of it.

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Fri, 02-25-2005 - 7:21pm
You don't owe him anything.
Linda
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Registered: 09-15-2003
Fri, 02-25-2005 - 8:12pm

Perhaps he was being honest in his voicemail. Know one really knows but him.

Aside from the whole late phone call thing, I don't think you were really interested in this one anyway. You made your point with your last email to him. While it may be polite to call him back, I think you could be beating a dead horse here. So if you don't want to call him back, don't.

But, if he keeps calling you. I suggest answering the phone and bluntly telling him you're just not interested. He could be one of those guys who just never really quite gets the message.

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Fri, 02-25-2005 - 10:21pm

Hi Vex,

This leopard has already shown you his "spots" and they aint gonna change!

I do think the ill mama thing was a dirty shot, meant to make you feel guilty! DID you hear "I apologize, I was wrong for calling you so late that night, it was rude of me". Nope! So, he did not "own" the problem, he just slapped some cheap paint on it! You deserve Much better 'enamel' than That dollar a gallon slop!

Roll on! So, how was the happy hour date with "Mr Return"?! Good, I hope!

truly,
Cupcake

(home and happy on a Friday night and me an the Pug are on our second glass of wine, only he can't drink

, so I am having His glass of wine too! :)

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Sat, 02-26-2005 - 10:11am
You don't have to do anything but die and pay taxes...don't call him. You two sound like you are not a good match at all.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sat, 02-26-2005 - 10:25am

Well, he did apologize but his excuse for why he said he did it was pretty flimsy and upon checking, didn't hold up (he said I told him my phone was off at night which I never said). Then the mother thing and obviously not knowing who I was at all. Two other tactics I didn't appreciate.

So onward and upward. Or backward really as Mr. Return and I had a great time. We both have plans tonight and although no specific plans were made for another date, we'll see. I know that everyone says if they don't make another date at that time that they are JNTIY, but from what I know of him, he just kind of moves on a different schedule than other people. I am not counting on anything, but not counting it out either.

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