Height Issues

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Height Issues
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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 11:47pm

Have any of you girls ever dated someone who was shorter/slighter than you were, and was it an issue for you? I met a guy I like in every way personality-wise, yet he is shorter/thinner than me. And I'm only 5'4", so he is pretty small for a guy. I don't know why I feel weird about it, since it seems so shallow to judge someone by their size. I've just never dated anyone smaller than me before. So I wondered if any of you all had, and how it went?

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 12:05am

Hi Blue,

Yowser, you have surely landed solid in the Middle of Planet Cupcake with This one!

I have a True liking for men NO shorter than six feet tall. I am 5 feet tall,(picture the size of your average 6th grade female:) and it has always been this way! I think it is a "crawl up in their lap" kinda thing for me, and that takes a big man. Do feel as I have 'matured' a bit with OLD, as I am currently writing to 2 men under that, one 5'9" and the other 5'10", and Well aware that men often 'fudge" on the height issue too, so they may be shorter....still, gonna give it a whirl!

Do see it is as a red flag per lying issues though, if they have lied Considerably about it! I do Not think that it is shallow to feel this way...Everyone has their criteria, and I do not mind if someone replies that they like a "Marilyn Monroe" type-I just don't fit that bill, but that is okay too!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 1:19am

Whenever I think about dating and height, I thank God I liked milk and got the genetics to hit 6'1". I feel sorry for the short dudes.

Then again, the gal I saw tonight is only about 5'1", so I suppose my pity for the short guys doesn't extend to staying away from the little itsy bitsy gals. :)

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 1:26am

I am only 5'1", so not too many guys are shorter than me so that hasn't been an issue for me! But I did have one guy I met who said he was 5'8" and there was no way he could have even been close to that - maybe 5'4" at the most! But he was very thin boned and frail looking and just did nothing for me.

I hated to be like that, but we can't help what we are attracted to! So don't feel shallow about feeling that way - I don't! Like cupcake who is also very petite, I guess I'm more used to taller guys and they seem to be attracted to me. One guy told me that a petite lady makes him feel very manly - unfortunately he had issues I didn't care to deal with!

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 2:13am

This is my #1 prerequisite- he MUST be bigger than me. Bigger in everyway.

I am 5'6 and anyone under 5'10 just feels short to me. Take my date Saturday night. He was maybe 5'9 and I weigh less than him. But the way he is built makes him a very very skinny but muscular guy. I felt gigantic next to him. I've tried dating guys under 5'10 on 3 other occassions. And everytime, they just felt too short and I just felt too big with them. With all of them, I just never truly felt 100% physically comfortable with them.

I agree it may seem shallow and perhaps I may be excluding some great guys who are "smaller" than what I'm looking for, but in my experience, I need my guy to be bigger than me.

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Registered: 03-05-2004
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 7:32am
Just wanted to give you gals another perspective. I am 5'9" and a voluptuous woman. I will date men shorter or smaller than myself. I was engaged to a man 5'6".
Michele
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Registered: 12-11-2004
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 9:51am

I love short girls. I'm 6'2, and in my perfect world, I'd be with a woman 4'10 to 5'2.

Then again, my world isn't perfect, so I'm not that picky:)

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 10:18am

This is just my personal opinion and I speak for no one else here but me. And this is not directed at the OP. This is a general post.

Having said that, I'm totally ashamed when I read posts from women complaining that they can't meet anyone who is "tall enough" for them.

How shallow. How utterly shallow. With the supposed lack of good men in the dating pool, to throw a potential good one back because of his height - well, these women deserve to be single.

Along the same lines of a man throwing a woman back because she's not thin enough. Shallow. Of course, you'll read plenty of women complaining about what a jerk he was, that he was only looking for someone who was perfect, yadda, yadda, yadda. Yeah? - take a look in the mirror when you complain that a guy isn't tall enough.

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 10:21am

Well, I'm 5'11 and I've tried to date shorter guys, but I'm just not comfortable.

I once dated a steeplechase jockey who was my height, but a good wind would have blown him away. It wasn't that huge of an issue. In fact, we probably would have kept dating if he could have gotten his green card renewed, but he ended up going back to Ireland.

I prefer a man to be a sort of beefy, and a LOT taller than I am.

Does it all go back to looking for Daddy? LOL My daddy was 6'6 and a BIG strong man. His physical structure is what I lean towards.


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Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 10:25am

Out of curiosity, how tall are you?

Try being 5'11 barefoot. It's very awkward to date shorter men.

Call me shallow. Whatever. If I'm not physically comfortable with someone, how can a relationship develop?


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Registered: 04-29-2003
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 10:33am

I went on a date once with a guy was 5'4" and I'm 5'3" but with my shoes on yes I was taller. Had he asked me out again I would have gone but alas he never called. This was several years ago. He was adorable just short and very confident, funny and articulate which is HUGE with me. I'm 5'3" so it's very rare to meet a man smaller than myself as well. Don't knock it til you try it!

I always preferred shorter guys over taller men anyday. Carlsbad guy was 6'4"-6'5" which was too tall. Actually, he put 6'4" in his profile and in real life he admitted he was 6'5". It was too tall; couldn't just reach over and hug or kiss him...someone had to bend down or stand on a step stool, LOL.

My current guy says he's 5'9" but I'll beg to differ, I'd say 5'8"..he, he but actually he's the perfect size for my frame. We hug and kiss very well together and when we spoon it's the perfect fit, ha! Plus he's big not skinny, I like guys with broad shoulders and that eat, ha! I think I once dated a guy who was so skinny, like 130 lbs and eat like a bird; I didn't like that, I like a man who can eat! Not fat either but athletic and toned, yummy.

Cheers,
Peanut

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