Height Issues

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Height Issues
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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 11:47pm

Have any of you girls ever dated someone who was shorter/slighter than you were, and was it an issue for you? I met a guy I like in every way personality-wise, yet he is shorter/thinner than me. And I'm only 5'4", so he is pretty small for a guy. I don't know why I feel weird about it, since it seems so shallow to judge someone by their size. I've just never dated anyone smaller than me before. So I wondered if any of you all had, and how it went?

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Wed, 02-23-2005 - 9:58pm

Hi,

Not surprised by what PM just said and let us know, and the honesty is appreciated, as always!

I am one of the few of my friends who has not been 'bi-curious' at some point in life, but then, I am one of the older girls in the group, at 48. Tha majority of them are in the 27-36 age range, and that is very common thereof.

Don't feel as though I missed anything, and I have been hit on by girls, but sweetly declined, I still like mine with a "kickstand"!

truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 10:09pm

I agree with cupcake.

Linda
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Wed, 02-23-2005 - 10:46pm

Wow! Was I shocked to see the number of responses this one got! I appreciate all the feedback it has generated.

The reason I was wondering how it may have went for any of you who did date shorter guys is because I will be dating this guy again, and like in many other situations, wondered if this might be one of those things you don't notice after a time if the person becomes more attractive in other ways. Its not a red flag issue by any means. I really like his personality, he's cute, and we're going out again on Saturday! I'm looking forward to seeing him again.

Also, I was wearing my usual 2 1/2" heels on the first date, and will be wearing lower shoes next time - it may give me a different perspective of him! I'm not 100% sure he's shorter, but he's definitely on the thin side (well proportioned, just smaller boned).

No, I'm not counting him out at all because of his height, I've dated enough tall, good looking jerks to place more importance on personality and compatibility.

Side note - he's also outside my usual age range - 6 years younger! WooHoo! And he thinks I'm hot! ;)

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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 9:43am

bluebird1234....


Pianoguy is curious?


If you had to make a choice between a short man who had a LARGE HEART or a tall man who was HEARTLESS (or at least had limited emotional reponses).....would the

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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 12:50pm

Can I amend my answer? ;)

I don't know how many of you saw West Wing last night, but there is a new character. I can't remember his name. But he was short- I'm guessing 5'8 or 5'9. But the charisma and personality of the character made me stop and go YUM. So perhaps if I met a man who had a fantastic personality, I might be willing to fudge my height requirement. :)

I still wouldn't do skinnier- that's my own body issues. But maybe shorter...

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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 2:02pm

Over the years, I've come to the realization that I'm simply not attracted to short men. By short, I mean under 5'10. While hair and eye color aren't very important for me, if the guy is shorter, or has a slight build, I've had the tendency of feeling like a "big girl" even though I'm not- something I don't enjoy. It makes me feel more masculine. I like men who make me feel secure when I'm standing next to them.

I dunno. There's just something very nice about being able to reach up to put my arms around him, rather than bending down for a hug!

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 6:01pm
What is it about a short girl that does it for you? How does a short girl make you feel or what images come to mind (if you don't mind me asking)?
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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 6:18pm

Pianoguy, I would think that a short guy, all things considered equal but height and the heart issue, a short guy with a big heart, would win with me over a heartless tall man any day.

Linda
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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 8:37pm
Sorry, but I really hate seeing a very short woman and a very tall man. Why? Because we tall females NEED those tall men. Recently I dated a man who was actually taller than me --I'm almost 6 feet and all the men I'd been meeting OLD were my same height. Oh, it was sooo nice to "look up to" a man--even by a couple of inches--and have "a shoulder to lean on." :) It's also easy to dance with a taller man, and awkward to kiss a shorter one. Short girls--take pity on the short guys and date your own kind! :)
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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 10:16pm
No, not at all! I see your point . . .