Hello and Roll Call!

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Registered: 11-20-2009
Hello and Roll Call!
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Fri, 11-20-2009 - 1:58pm

I wanted to send out a quick hello as the new CL of the board. If you've participated, lurked, or just happened upon Online Dating for the first time, welcome.


Most of you will recognize me by my former name, hs1754. I changed it slightly when I picked up my CL hat today.


A little about me--I'm in my mid 40s, divorced with two children, and have done the online dating thing off and on for the past four years

 


Your final reward will be heartaches and tears if you’ve cheated the man in the glass.       &nb

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Sun, 11-22-2009 - 1:37pm

Divorced for a long time.

Two years this stint. I did it twice before briefly back in 2003 and 2004.

What do you like best about it? I can meet men I ordinarily would not meet IRL, especially working from home and being older.

What have you learned about yourself through the process? I'm not a quitter.

What was your most interesting experience so far? I don't think I've had any experiences that were all that interesting beyond the usual.

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Registered: 07-05-2006
Sun, 11-22-2009 - 9:52pm

Hello! This is awesome that there's a message board like this to relate to others in similar situations, nice to meet you and I look forward to your input.

I'm 20 and my boyfriend of 3 years is 12 years older than me. We met online and were friends first before we ever started dating. You can find out more in my new post.

The one thing I've learned the most about myself is how strong and dedicated I am to making things work and how serious I am and am willing to try.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-03-2009 - 5:55pm

New here:


Divorced after a 29 year marriage.


I started OLD as soon as I file for the divorce.


What do I like best about OLD?

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Registered: 12-02-2009
Fri, 12-04-2009 - 3:41pm

Hi iladyja,


Welcome to the board and the sometimes strange world of online dating. I do think there are sincere people using these services for the same reasons I am--to meet and date other

Your final reward will be heartaches and tears if you’ve cheated the man in the glass.          &nb

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 12-05-2009 - 10:42pm

Hi there, I think I remember you from the Surviving Divorce message board. My SIL just joined match.com & she told me that a guy contacted her saying that he had a GF but he wanted to be "friends". My SIL told him that if he had a GF it really wasn't appropriate to be contacting strange women & that she already had friends--she was looking for a BF! So yeah, there are strange ones out there.

About me--I haven't started doing OLD yet since my 2nd div--it was final in June but we were separated a year before that. I put up my profile this summer, then chickened out. I keep hoping someone will show up on my doorstep, but it doesn't look like that's going to happen, so I suppose if I want any dates, I'll have to bite the bullet. I started looking here so I could get some advice from people who have been there.

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sun, 12-06-2009 - 9:20am

I'm 45, divorced almost three years, two teens at home.

I do OLD because between work, tutoring, going to school myself, I don't have time to go out and meet anyone! I could go sit in a bar all night, but as a friend said, "Do you really want to be with a guy whose idea of a good time is sitting at a bar all night?"

I've been at this on and off for a year and a half. I've met some nice people, some duds.

The weirdest was a guy who emailed me telling me what a rich millionaire he was. He had his profile hidden because he had a high profile job, but told me his real name and gave me an alternate email. We correspond for a while, and I still couldn't figure out what he wanted with me because we don't roll in the same social circles. He started texting me all the time, called me once, leaving a message, then would never return my call. Kept texting. Finally I said, it's time to meet. He had lots of excuses. Then he texts one night asking me to meet him at a bar close to my house. During all this time, I had googled him, and he did have a high profile job, and he is loaded.

I get to the bar, he is DRUNK AS A SKUNK. After 5 minutes he has his hand on my knee. He gets annoyed when I peel it off. I stay a little longer, he staggers off to the bathroom. When he gets back he tries to pull my seat closer to him. I tell him I am leaving, he asks to see me again...

The texts continue,some going very late into the evening, but I seldom respond. Finally I sent an email through Match telling him to take a hike, I get a few more frantic texts after that.

I send one final text asking what does he want from me since he never seems to want to MEET. I get a response saying "Sorry, I have met someone else..." So bizarre!

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Registered: 12-02-2009
Sun, 12-06-2009 - 10:26am

Hi Start,


Yes that sounds like a strange experiene. I had a strange texter once too. I actually was connected with him through eH. We got all the way through the traditional guided communication and then we agreed to 'talk' by phone. He gave me his number and said, "I heard some women feel more comfortable making the first call instead of giving out their own number."


This wasn't my preference, but since I'm trying to expand my views on these things, I said what the heck and tried to call one day. It was strange--there was no voice mail set up on his phone. Then he had a million excuses why he never called me back.


First he had the flu, then he was out of town. But he would text me every day saying, Hi. How are you? And How's your weekend going? I'll call you in a few days. But he never did. After about three of these strange texts, I just stopped responding.


A month later, he sent me another one which I ignored.


I came to the conclusion he was probably married and looking for something on the side, or just had a whole line up of women he was trying to meet and hadn't gotten to me on the list.


I pretty quickly weed these types out.


My guess about your guy is that he was either married too or just looking for a hook up and not a relationship (shrug).


Your final reward will be heartaches and tears if you’ve cheated the man in the glass.          &nb

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Registered: 01-22-2007
Mon, 12-07-2009 - 12:08pm

I am single - 31.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-09-2009 - 9:41am

Yes, that was me from Surviving Divorce messageboard.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Wed, 12-09-2009 - 11:48am

There are much better dates out there for you I'm sure! Don't let this rude man get you down. I've heard some pretty bizarre tales on this board, but I know there are good ones too. Perhaps we just need to talk more about the bizarre or disappointing ones.

What is the dating book you read? Also, I LOVED "He's Just Not That Into You." I wish I'd read it 30 years ago. And, if you're going to do the online thing, I really liked "Fine, I'll Go Online."

Like you, I'm not happy with so-so either.

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