Help I like 2 guys

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Help I like 2 guys
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Sat, 12-10-2005 - 9:37am

ok, I have 3 guys after me at the moment (wow it sounds so good, heehee just had to say that!) but here is the dilemma:

Guy 1 (the "stingy guy")- I'm going to dump him... yikes I hate to play the villain. Not a real problem here... I just have to do it!

Guy 2: went for drinks with him tonigh. I met him at speed dating earlier in the week. He told me that the moment he sat down he knew it was a Yes. He even noticed me before the speed dating began... I really like him and I feel mentally and physically attracted to him. We like the same things and have similar personality type. I wouldn't think twice going out with him seriously if it is not for Guy 3...

Guy 3: is my type, ticks, A+'s in every possible way. One thing is that we haven't met as he is still on a business trip overseas. He says he should be back next week but does not have a definite date because of the work but really wants to meet up with me once he's back. So we've been exchanging emails daily for almost a week now and I really feel the connection. He is my guy but I want to meet him first before anything. I have seen his pic. He already said that we match quite well just by looking at our profiles and I have to agree. It seems that we are on the same track.

So the dilemma is: I really like Guy 2 and he likes me but I like Guy 3 as well... and Guy 3 likes me but the problem is I haven't met him!!! What if I turn down Guy 2 and when I meet Guy 3 there is no attraction?! The other thing is, Guy 2 says he will call me and what should I do if he wants to see me again before I meet Guy 3???????? I would really want to see him because I like him... but what about Guy 3??????

What a mess. I really didn't think anything would come out of speed dating! I was really there for fun and to challenge myself... and I really didn't expect any interest from Guy 3.

This is bad!! What should I do??????

oh and I didn't mention to guy 2 (speed dating guy) that I had other matches from speed dating (but I don't think I will date the other guys, enough mess already) and didn't mention that I'm doing OLD too.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 6:43pm
Perfect! And yes, stop worrying until there is something to worry about! I am hardly the person to say that cuz I never take that advice, but give it a try and just enjoy going out with guy #2 until you meet guy #3. Not to be totally pessimistic, but guy #3 COULD ghost on you. I hope not since you seem to think highly of him, but he's out of town, it's a busy time of year... If you like guy #2, keep seeing him. He sounds like a good guy who likes you and deserves a chance. Good luck with both of them!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 6:59pm

Thanks ladies. I haven't had so many guys after me since high school- but that time was easy cos there was only ONE who was likeable!! lol.

I really can't wait to meet #3 but at the same time I'm scared that when I meet him I won't be attracted to him. We'll see. His emails are prompt.

Truthfully, I'm enjoying being pursued by these guys, but at the same time, I would hate to hurt their feelings. Anyways, will keep you guys posted. Thanks!!

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