Help! I need an intervention, stat! LOL

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Help! I need an intervention, stat! LOL
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Fri, 12-08-2006 - 7:05pm

So tonight I noticed the guy who blew me off deleted me from his Myspace.

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Mon, 12-11-2006 - 5:27pm

You know what I think sucks big time? I think it's rotten that, as women, we seem to be the ones ALWAYS working harder than the guys. Some seem to think that women are a dime a dozen. In a rural area, where I live, I KNOW that to not be the case, but I continue to have problems with men and dating. It just seems SO not worth it to me at times. I know things can change for the better in a minute. Likewise, I know they can change for the worse. It's the latter that keeps me confused and waiting for the other shoe to drop every time I meet or date someone new.

This last episode with this newest guy is a red flag for me--that he simply is not over his ex but is unwilling to admit it. So, I am not initiating any phone calls. So far, I have let him do most of the calling with me only returning calls to him that I missed. I called him maybe once without him calling first. Time will tell what will happen, but I will always believe women have a lot more invested than men do most of the time.

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Mon, 12-11-2006 - 5:40pm

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I think women tend to be more "personal-connection-oriented" than men, so in most relationships the women are the ones who feel responsible for the connection.

I don't think it means that most men think women are a dime a dozen.

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Mon, 12-11-2006 - 5:51pm
That is a bit of a cliche' phrase, but it seems to have some merit in that some men think that there will always be a better one around the corner. I think many women feel like we are dispensable and that is ultimately what the problem is when a guy cannot stick with one woman long enough to even see if they might work out. They always have their nose out for something better. To my way of thinking, I would be pretty ticked off if a guy had the audacity to collect phone numbers from other women on a date with someone else.
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Tue, 12-12-2006 - 2:30pm
Just to clarify - we were not on a date.

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Tue, 12-12-2006 - 2:38pm
Oh OK, I misunderstood. Glad he was not as rude as I thought. However, I will say it again; Stacey, you are a really nice looking gal and your posts are always heartfelt and well written. You offer good advice to others when you can. I don't know why some guy has not snapped you up a long time ago. However, it goes to show that even if you are considered attractive (by most people's standards) that nothing is easy when it comes to dating.
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Tue, 12-12-2006 - 11:01pm

So would I. And if I were a guy, I'd be upset if a woman collected phone numbers and so forth while on a date with me -- and some women do.

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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 1:53pm
Thanks Mitsy.

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