About fake jerks.... the guy I dated since Jan. was fake also, he became the person he thought I wanted him to be and then about month 4 or 5, did an abrupt change, and I was like - who is this guy??? I guess he got tired of the act and decided to drop it, but the funny thing was that I didn't like the *real* him. Oh well, next! Isn't OLD fun?!!!
i think the others are correct, but in the end do what you want to do and feel is right. even if it turns out everyone is correct - there was/is that chance he is being honest. People deserve the benefit of the doubt.
For some reason my life always FULL and I have a lot going on. I barely make time for me anymore ... and while I was dating online - I had a lot of things to plan around if I wanted to meet up w/ a guy. So, oen of my requirements would be that the guy would have to be patient with me, even without meeting me. I'm not high maintenance in the sense I require the best of everything or that I need a lot of attn from a guy when I'm with them. But I'm high maintenance in the respect a guy has to put up with a lot from me. Long hours at work at times, spending quality time with my friends and family - sometimes that doesnt include the guy - and just doing my thing.
When I find the right guy who is patient, then I start to make them a priority.
after all that Sparkle, I say this. What do you have to loose? I think you need practice (everyone does, i do too still after dating ALOT this past year and half) - and this is the way to get it. Email him tomorrow or Thursday. Make him wait. (Yah a little bit of game playing is ok) Then just say lightly - Oh I mis read you (be honest but dont give too much of yourself or to him but this says you are direct and open but cautious e.g. confident) - have a great rest of the trip and if you d like to meet up lets try when you are back in town.
Leave it at that. Dont expect anything. Let him call you/email you to make plans. Be passive in the sense you let him lead. In the meantime, go ahead and email/talk to other men. This is where a lot of women find it hard. Dating (serial dating is what I clal it) multiple men. You aren't committed to any one dude, so go ahead and keep looking and chatting it up. Let the guy be - "on the side" - and "not right now in the next two weeks or so... but maybe in the future " guy.
Get it ;). This is what I did with these guys from OLD - and well most of them turned out to be losers - but there were one or two that I'm glad I was mellow and let them make their own fate with me. Also, im sure it was reversed where some guys were happy they didnt read my signs as not wanting what they did bc i was so busy.
ok that was a start. just let it go is what you have to do. from there, you will feel much more free and confident when you start gabbing w/ the next guy.
I think your life becomes full when you start living & doing things that you enjoy. Im sure yours is full - just take a look around
Positive attitude isn't always there, trust me. I have my moments. But after a break up 2.5 years ago I woke up and realized life isn't about just having a relationship/dating/yearning for a boyfriend. Although lately Ive been wanting one - I realize it'll happen when its time. ANd boy I hope its sometime soon ;)
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Hi Sparkle,
About fake jerks.... the guy I dated since Jan. was fake also, he became the person he thought I wanted him to be and then about month 4 or 5, did an abrupt change, and I was like - who is this guy??? I guess he got tired of the act and decided to drop it, but the funny thing was that I didn't like the *real* him. Oh well, next! Isn't OLD fun?!!!
Sunshine
Edited 6/21/2005 9:36 pm ET ET by sunshinesmiles2
i think the others are correct, but in the end do what you want to do and feel is right. even if it turns out everyone is correct - there was/is that chance he is being honest. People deserve the benefit of the doubt.
For some reason my life always FULL and I have a lot going on. I barely make time for me anymore ... and while I was dating online - I had a lot of things to plan around if I wanted to meet up w/ a guy. So, oen of my requirements would be that the guy would have to be patient with me, even without meeting me. I'm not high maintenance in the sense I require the best of everything or that I need a lot of attn from a guy when I'm with them. But I'm high maintenance in the respect a guy has to put up with a lot from me. Long hours at work at times, spending quality time with my friends and family - sometimes that doesnt include the guy - and just doing my thing.
When I find the right guy who is patient, then I start to make them a priority.
after all that Sparkle, I say this. What do you have to loose? I think you need practice (everyone does, i do too still after dating ALOT this past year and half) - and this is the way to get it. Email him tomorrow or Thursday. Make him wait. (Yah a little bit of game playing is ok) Then just say lightly - Oh I mis read you (be honest but dont give too much of yourself or to him but this says you are direct and open but cautious e.g. confident) - have a great rest of the trip and if you d like to meet up lets try when you are back in town.
Leave it at that. Dont expect anything. Let him call you/email you to make plans. Be passive in the sense you let him lead. In the meantime, go ahead and email/talk to other men. This is where a lot of women find it hard. Dating (serial dating is what I clal it) multiple men. You aren't committed to any one dude, so go ahead and keep looking and chatting it up. Let the guy be - "on the side" - and "not right now in the next two weeks or so... but maybe in the future " guy.
Get it ;). This is what I did with these guys from OLD - and well most of them turned out to be losers - but there were one or two that I'm glad I was mellow and let them make their own fate with me. Also, im sure it was reversed where some guys were happy they didnt read my signs as not wanting what they did bc i was so busy.
Goooo for it girl.
Hi there.
ok that was a start. just let it go is what you have to do. from there, you will feel much more free and confident when you start gabbing w/ the next guy.
I think your life becomes full when you start living & doing things that you enjoy. Im sure yours is full - just take a look around
Positive attitude isn't always there, trust me. I have my moments. But after a break up 2.5 years ago I woke up and realized life isn't about just having a relationship/dating/yearning for a boyfriend. Although lately Ive been wanting one - I realize it'll happen when its time. ANd boy I hope its sometime soon ;)
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