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| Sat, 10-29-2005 - 11:54am |
Had date #5 las night with a nice man I met on Match.com. He's 11 years older than I am (I'm 49 and he's 60) so the age difference is pretty big. However, we have a lot in common and I've enjoyed my time with him - he's very intelligent, good sense of humor, generous, etc. At the end of date #3 we made out for the first time and both seemed to enjoy it. Date #4 progressed to more making out, cuddling and a little light petting. We both seemed to be having a good time. (That's as far as I'm comfortable going at this point and I don't think either one of us is ready to hop into bed.) Last night we were together for 5 1/2 hours. He didn't lay a hand on me the entire night. I went to kiss him at one point and he all but pushed me away - which really hurt my feelings. I told him I was confused - suggested perhaps there was a chemistry problem on his end and assured him that that was o.k. if there was - that either it's there or it isn't. (But just say so!) He said it wasn't that at all - he is always tired on Friday nights.
This morning he left a message on my voice mail that he's sorry he didn't jump my bones last night but that he's always tired on Friday nights. Said it's definitely not a chemistry issue and hopes I still want to see him. What gives? I've never been rejected physically by a man before and find it very odd. And it's not the fact that there was no kanoodling that bothers me - it's the fact that he very obviously WASN'T INTERESTED in any kanoodling. All I can think of is the book, "He's Just Not That Into You" where he says, "He's just not that into you if he doesn't want to have sex with you". My feeling is that he's just not that into me.
I've pretty much decided not to see him again because of that. Can anyone give me a good reason NOT to stop seeing him???

I can. Maybe he has "physical limitations" which are embarrassing to him and he doesn't want to admit on Date #5. Considering what happened on Date #4, he knew that he'd have to put the brakes on until he's ready to perform.
That would be my first (and probably only) thought about that situation.
I concur with this post. He's 60, probably not as confident as he once was in the bedroom.
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