Help! Need advice
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| Thu, 05-11-2006 - 12:05am |
Long story short, I got a wink from this guy on match, and he was really cute and seemed interesting. So I winked back and we started a light-hearted conversation by emails. He wrote last Friday and I wrote him back. Then he disappeared over the weekend. Monday he wrote and said he was on a boat all weeknd so he didn't have email...hmm, okay. That same day he asked if I wanted to 'do something' Thursday. I wrote back and asked what he had in mind. Tuesday I didn't hear from him. Today I asked him if he was still up for meeting, but didn't hear back from him. Just now (midnight) I get this email.....
Hey Tina,
Yeah, I would still like to do something tomorrow. Where in xxxxxx are you?
So do I give this guy a chance? I mean seriously, is that the worst way of being asked out or what?!
...but at least the ball is back in my court ;-)

Personally, I would not meet up with the guy on such short notice (even if I didn't have anything planned). I think it is only common courtesy for the man to give the woman some advance notice (at least 3days) when asking her out. Else he'll start taking you for granted that you'll be available at the last minute (without anything else to do).
I think you could definitely give him a chance, but not tonight. Let him know that you would like to meet him and suggest a couple of days next week.
At this point, unless the e-mails have been in-depth, I would guess that you don't know all the details of his work schedule and how he spends his free-time. He may have a lot of commitments.
Good luck.
I'd say 30% of the guys I've met and (take a deep breath) will more than likely continue to meet until I'm in a relationship my dates were spontaneous - such as we just spoke and met that same day or night or next day for lunch. The rest were pre-planned.