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| Wed, 09-07-2005 - 8:18am |
I don't know what I was thinking. I should think before I email someone.
Here's the situation. I met a guy for dinner from online that is also from my area. He went on a month's vacation right after we met. We did email and chat back and forth a few times when he was away. About a week after he was home, he came online and said he was bored and asked if I wanted to do anything that night. I had to work the next day, he didn't. It was getting late. He only could come up with me going to his place and since we've only met once, I didn't find that to be a good idea. So, he said that if I could come up with something to do, to message him. I couldn't think of anything so needless to say, we didn't do anything. The next day I was feeling kinda bad about not going out with him. I do want to see him again. So I emailed him telling him that I would've went out if I didn't have to work that day and that I'd like to go out and do something some other time, maybe for a walk, or a few drinks. He never responded to that email. He went to the Stones concert that weekend and I emailed asking how it went. He got back to me but didn't chat for long. I want to email him to ask him if he wants to rent a movie sometime at his place(I know what I said earlier) but I don't know what he's thinking about all of this now. It's driving me crazy now.
Edited 9/7/2005 8:24 am ET ET by dream_angel2005
Edited 9/7/2005 8:26 am ET ET by dream_angel2005

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Why is it driving you crazy?
I know, I'm trying to convince myself that whatever happens is for the best but it still bothers me too.
Edited 9/7/2005 10:28 am ET ET by dream_angel2005
I find it hard to meet local guys on here or out somewhere for that matter, so that's why I'm feeling bad about this whole thing. Mostly for me, not him because we might've had fun, who knows.
Edited 9/7/2005 11:06 am ET ET by dream_angel2005
I think he was looking for a hook-up. He couldn't think of anything else to do besides you come over to his house...puhleeze! If he was a good guy he would respect your time & the fact that you have to get up & go to work the next day. If he really wanted to have an actual date with you he would have worked something out with you when you suggested it, instead of ignoring your email.
Personally, I find it a turn-off when guys put in their profile that they are bored. I NEXT them right away! Bored people are boring.
This guy sounds like a flake.
Anyone that gets angry or pissy because they call you and and expect you to go out that SAME night when you have to work the next day is inconsiderate and rude. He doesn't seem willing to make compromises to his schedule to accommodate yours - why should you be giving up your sleep to go over to his house when 1) you are uncomfortable doing that on a second date 2) you have to go to work the next day and be a functioning member of society and 3) he isn't willing to come up with other suggestions when you say no to his plans? You were thinking with your head, girl, not your heart and to be honest, that is GOOD at this stage! Trust your gut and if it said right off the bat to not go over there, it was probably right.
You have made your interest perfectly clear by suggesting an alternate night for the plans that works for BOTH of you. If he gets pouty because of this and you wind up compromising, you will always wind up doing things his way and he will learn to take advantage of it. Don't suggest a movie at his place. If he gets back to you and suggests something, fine, choose to go out with him or not. But don't give up your comfort and values because of this guy.
If he's blowing you off because you didn't jump to a last minute...what? I can't use the word DATE here...housecall? then he's not worthy of you. Don't EVER compromise your morals and self-respect (and your safety for that matter) for the sake of anyone! This guy sounds very selfish to me.
I just don't think he's that interested in you. No offense. I mean if he was he'd be asking you out, the only time he did was when he was bored and it was late and he didn't seem to really have a "plan" to do anything, which to me means it was kind of a "oh well I have nothing else going on and dreamangel is available so wanna go out"
I don't think you blew anything..I just don't think he's that into you...and I agree with firstamendment, don't chase...it makes you seem needy even if you aren't.
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