Here I go again :(
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| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 11:02am |
I joined an OLD site early Saturday (7/16) morning and had 5 hits by 10:00 AM. Three of them peaked little interest for me, but the other 2 I have been emailing ever since. Now, here's my problem.
I am already getting cold feet and of course, haven't met anyone yet. How immature is that? And why? Last night I layed in bed trying to recount my past OLD experiences from several years ago...and Good Grief...I had suppressed them so well, it took an hour to get a head count. I about had an anxiety attack when I got to #10.... TEN MEN, and every single one of them was a bust for me. I never made a second date, ever, even though all but 1 of them was interested in going out again.
With that said, the man who has ALREADY asked me out for coffee is an attorney, we are the same age, same sunsign, both widow(ers), have an adult daughter living at home with us...and needless to say, this whole thing is creeping me out. Talk about stuff in common!!!
BUT, he wants me to set the date and time that's most convenient for meeting and I have suddenly developed some kind of paralysis. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?????
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LOL...there is nothing wrong with you Begin. It's perfectly normal to feel nervous and apprehensive about meeting a total stranger but, don't compare your past experiences to your potential new ones. What's in the past is simply that, past. By comparing your past experiences you will sabatoge yourself before you ever get out of the door. Remember, you have a lot to offer and any man who doesn't realize that is not worth your time. Go out there, knock 'em dead and don't bother to take a head count because they don't count, they are mere stepping stones to your Mr. Right.
My advice, and I'm sure you'll get a lot of the same from the other posters is, if you want to meet the Lawyer, set it up ASAP. Waiting to meet can build false expecations which is never good. You can do it, we've all been there and have survived to tell about it. Good Luck!!
All the best,
Libra
Edited 7/18/2005 11:23 am ET ET by libraclass
Well Libra, I took your advice and set up a meeting day/time with lawyer man. He just seems so nice and sincere....not exceptionally good looking, but there's something about him...dunno. Guess I'll find out...
IN THE MEANTIME, I have 2 more on the hook. (busy day at work..laff) !!
Funny, but after I wrote the first post, I remebered an 11th date I had met online. This block was English...cute little bugger....but he was 10 years younger than me. We had breakfast (took an hour off from work) and met at a cute little waffle place in town. His accent had me captivated, but I just couldn't get over the age thing. So, I turned down a second date with him. Can't believe I had forgotten about that one...
This time around, I am being more honest WITH MYSELF and instead of jumping at every response, I am doing a more thorough examination by asking the
Yeah Begin!! I really glad to hear that you went for it and set up a meeting with Lawyer guy. Hopefully you won't be disappointed. It's been my experience that it's the ones we least expect to be attracted to that tend to stand out the most for whatever reason. When I planned to meet Phone guy I was very apprehensive because he seemed very quiet and rather dull on the phone. However, when I took one look at him in person I knew that I had hit the jackpot and within five minutes I knew he was definitely not quiet or dull. A month later, I'm very glad that I didn't back out.
I've been down the dating younger men path and I did have reservations about it myself, until late spring when I met a guy 11 years younger than me...tattoo man. Hehe.. We had a great time together for a while, but I realized that there was no potential for a LTR so I cut things off. I can honestly say I never saw him as being younger at all, we just had a lot in common and got along well and we shared a real love for motorcycles. We were just to individuals getting to know each other and age wasn't a factor at all, ever. It just wasn't in the cards for us.
You sound like you've got a good handle on how to approach OLD this time. I like your attitude....ask tough questions. Go get 'em!
Good Luck! I can't wait to hear how it goes with Lawyer guy...keep us posted.
All the best,
Libra
Edited 7/18/2005 8:32 pm ET ET by libraclass
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Begin,
Have you met the Lawyer yet? Inquiring minds want to know.. LOL
Libra
Libra,
When I wrote to him that my father had been an attorney and I had worked for him for 15 years, he strangly disappeared. Poof! Whatcha think? ;)
Begin
Hmmmm...interesting. Maybe Mr. Lawyer wasn't a lawyer after all and realized that he would be found out. LOL
Who knows what people think or why they disappear. My thinking is, if they disappear, it's for my own good.
Libra
"Hmmmm...interesting. Maybe Mr. Lawyer wasn't a lawyer after all and realized that he would be found out. LOL"
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