here I go again

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Registered: 05-27-2005
here I go again
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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 8:18am

I don't know what I was thinking. I should think before I email someone.
Here's the situation. I met a guy for dinner from online that is also from my area. He went on a month's vacation right after we met. We did email and chat back and forth a few times when he was away. About a week after he was home, he came online and said he was bored and asked if I wanted to do anything that night. I had to work the next day, he didn't. It was getting late. He only could come up with me going to his place and since we've only met once, I didn't find that to be a good idea. So, he said that if I could come up with something to do, to message him. I couldn't think of anything so needless to say, we didn't do anything. The next day I was feeling kinda bad about not going out with him. I do want to see him again. So I emailed him telling him that I would've went out if I didn't have to work that day and that I'd like to go out and do something some other time, maybe for a walk, or a few drinks. He never responded to that email. He went to the Stones concert that weekend and I emailed asking how it went. He got back to me but didn't chat for long. I want to email him to ask him if he wants to rent a movie sometime at his place(I know what I said earlier) but I don't know what he's thinking about all of this now. It's driving me crazy now.

Edited 9/7/2005 8:24 am ET ET by dream_angel2005




Edited 9/7/2005 8:26 am ET ET by dream_angel2005

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Thu, 09-08-2005 - 11:03pm

You know, you would feel SOOOO much better if libraclass had a new backyard! Go down to "I Need Your Vote" and vote.

Pay it forward, baby!

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Registered: 05-27-2005
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 7:15am
I kinda got that he's not interested in me. He's the one that emailed me two days after we met, though, so what's that supposed to mean? I always thought it meant that he must be interested a little but then again he can change his mind after a month has passed. I'm just so mad about the whole thing.
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Registered: 10-27-2003
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 9:39am

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What it means is, He may have been interested at the time, but also looking for the BBD and keeping his options open. I agree with the other's, he was looking to hook up, you didn't bite so he's moving on. Which is a good thing, if that's his agenda. You don't need someone who's not totally into you. I don't mean to sound harsh, but I've been in your shoes more than once and know it's not fun. As the book says...Don't waste the pretty.

All the best,
Libra

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 4:30pm
And also, it was 2 days after you met - not right after or even the next day. If he was really interested, he would have called you or probably emailed the next day or even the same night you met.

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 6:30pm

Because your disapointed, congratulations, your human :-)

OLD does make you a bit cynical but try hard to let it go. Remember eventually if not now you'll meet a mutual match who will be on the same page as you and proove it via his actions not words and you won't even question it. Its easy to get paranoid too when your out there dating again that this will happen again and again, it just might but keep the faith and remember eventually your guy to be will shine thru!!!

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