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He's only temporary
| Wed, 01-17-2007 - 10:19pm |
I just had my first phone call with a guy that I've been talking to from Yahoo. Things were going pretty well, I was making him laugh, he's telling me about his big trip. Then he mentions that he's moving 2.5 hours away in about six months to pursue his career. That sounds to me like he is not looking for a relationship with anyone here. I'm kind of disappointed, b/c he seems like he has a lot going for him. Of course, we haven't met or anything. Should I write him off or give him more time? I don't want to like someone that is not going to be around in a few months. Maybe I am taking this too seriously, but I also am not doing this OLD thing just for the hell of it. I'm looking to meet someone eventually that could be serious.

I have mixed feelings about your post, and here's why:
I was in the exact same position as you about four years ago. I met a guy who was going to be moving soon. Although I was looking for something long-term, he wasn't, and he let me know.
Like a fool, I kept up seeing him. And then he got a job on the other side of the globe. Not just 2.5 hours away - across the international date line!
I wished I had never met him. The pain was terrible. I had made a mistake that I'll never make again, and that's part of my advice - this is probably something you don't want to go through with. You'll get hurt and you'll only be something for him to do. And that's NOT what you're looking for.
There is a chance, of course, that something could come of this - mine did. But it was one of those one in a billion chances. I wouldn't recommend it to anyone.
If I were you, and I'm telling you this from personal experience - walk away from him. If you really mean anything to him, he'll make an effort to keep you in his life. But it has to be *his* decision, not yours.
Keep the faith! Met a guy on OLD, he was looking for a friend to hang out with while living in my city, but I answered his email anyway. We dated for about a month and then he moved 10 hours away for his job (I knew from the first date this would happen) Long story short, it turned into a relationship. You never know! 2.5 hours away is not that far.
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