hey gl1911/gulf from georgia!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
hey gl1911/gulf from georgia!
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Sun, 07-09-2006 - 8:42pm

I read your message below about changing your mySpace to seem more attractive, and although all of the comments were great, I wanted to give you some actual feedback about your mySpace profile, since that's what you were originally looking for. (BTW, I know EXACTLY how you feel about loneliness causing your depression. I struggle with this constantly.)

So here are my suggestions for re-vamping your profile...I'm going to be blunt and to the point, because I think that's what you're looking for, right? So here goes...

1. Change your main picture. Most times, girls will look at a main pic, and if they don't like it, they'll move on quickly. Harsh, but guys do it too. It's just the name of the dating game. Pick a picture where you're smiling, and your eyes are showing, maybe something not so "posed". I'd maybe use the one with the girl, but try to crop the girl out. (Chicks don't like guys pics with other chicks!)

2. Weird as it sounds, get a different background. That army green is not very appealing.

3. Get a different song. That one is scary.

4. Write more about yourself in the About Me section. We like to get a feel for you before we write to you.

Other than that, I think your profile is fine. Personally, I think it's the combination of all those things above that are making you seem "scary", which I'm sure you're actually not. In fact, you're a very cute guy, especially when you smile. Get rid of those scary combat pictures, and put some in with, I don't know, a dog or a kid or something, and chicks will love it!

And on a more serious note, listen to what the other girls said...depression sucks, and depression that's caused by being single sucks worse, because it's not something that can be "fixed" by pills. I know, I'm currently there myself...but even if you're depressed, try to not show it to potential dates, because that won't help your cause any. I had to learn that the hard way ;-)

Good luck, and come back and let us know what your new profile looks like!

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Registered: 05-30-2006
Mon, 07-10-2006 - 4:53pm
thank you for your feedback... but.. the background is my favorite color... and the song is really good it has good lyrics and and I have approving comments from other people who like it.... those are my only pics I have left from iraq I lost all the other ones when my hard drive crashed.. i thought they might make me seem a little more interesting since not everyone gets a chance to go to war..... I thought the pic that had that girl in it would actually benefit me because it shows them that other girls can stand to be around me so I must not be that bad. I guess I will change it some though im too depressed right now to bother but I can try a different color scheme.... and maybe a song that's less "scary".. although I guess everything I listen to sounds "scary". I'll have to take some new pics too. Thanks for your feedback tho.