Hi! I'm new!

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Registered: 12-30-2004
Hi! I'm new!
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Thu, 04-21-2005 - 10:57am

I have been a lurker for quite a while, and finally decided to join in! Could you please critique my match profile? 468stargirl

And I know I need a full body picture, hope to add that this weekend!

thanks!
starrgirl





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Registered: 01-12-2005
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 11:14am

Hi starrgirl!


WELCOME TO THE ON-LINE DATING BOARD.


Cl-Pianoguy took a quick look at your ivillage profile......(lately, going into match.com has been disappointing for me)...but you sound like a nice person?

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Registered: 12-30-2004
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 11:31am

Thanks for the welcome! I actually was working on my Ivillage one and just updated it. Let me know what you think!

starrgirl





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Registered: 05-16-2004
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 11:35am
Ok first thoughts. Pretty. Cute kids. Should have the standard lineup of head, body, candid – of which I think you only need to add a full length. Some of the text is cliché. Take everything out that remotely mentions friends or soulmate because I think that’s a given. The more details of things you like to do, places you like to go, etc – the better because you’ll form a connection with someone who is a closer match to you. Spend some time (if you haven’t) looking at the other female profiles in your area and notice how they are all the same? I’m the guy in the rollercoaster who is going to show up on your “who viewed me” link…
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Registered: 12-30-2004
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 11:51am

Thanks for the compliments! : ) I will rework it to get the details in better and change up the friendship part...

Thanks for your help!
starrgirl





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Registered: 12-10-2004
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 1:50pm

I'm not a fan of having your kids in one of your OLD profile pictures. I don't want to date your kids, I want to date a woman.

Now, granted, for people with kids that's a big big big part of their life. That's cool, and I wouldn't want to date a woman who had kids but didn't mention it! They are and SHOULD be a big part of her life.

But ultimately, the initial dating part is about the two people who're going to be going out on dates. If things work well between them, the added complexity of children will come later.

I've dated some women with kids and generally respond well to profiles that don't have any kids in the pictures, but where the woman said something along the lines of "I love my children and of course they are a big part of my life" without blathering on and on and on about them and how they're the most important thing and all you wanna do is hang with them and you just LOOOOOVE them to death...

In other words, yes, be into your kids, but dating is for the grownups. Or, in my case, the almost-grown-ups. :)

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 2:11pm

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The complexity of children is there from day one. Like it or not, the kids come first. If you can't handle the fact that kids cause daily disruptions to one's life, then it would behoove you to date only women with no children. Because you really are dating the whole package - even if you never meet the kids.

I'm not sure how I feel about posting kid's pictures on profiles. It makes me queasy to think some kind of child predator may see them and use them as the motivator for contact/dating. But my DS is a BIG 16 year old. He could - and would - take down anyone who did anything inappropriate to him. It's fun for me to put a pic up of him - I have a great shot of him in a lovely suit - with his 18" dayglo green mohawk set up nice and high.

I'm more OK with older kids being in a picture. Like one guy I met who had a pic with his son and a deer - his son's first kill. It was a great shot; the kid's excitement was evident, as was the dad's pride.