Hi i'm new here

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Hi i'm new here
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Fri, 04-25-2003 - 3:35am
Hi everyone..I'm new to this board and sure am glad to have found this.

I've been in an online relationship only this January, we're at the opposite sides of the world, me here in the Philippines while him in Michigan. Got different time zones too, 12 hrs apart..I got to talk to him at night b4 he sleeps while im just starting my day here and in the mornin b4 he goes to work while me already startin to pack up to go home.

Weve been talking almost everyday, and goin on strong. He often calls me too...but ohh boy his bills are zoomiiinnngg (LOL). And hopefully one day, there will be a chance we can finally meet each other. And were both prayin for that and im very happy to have met him.

Just cant describe wat im feelin right now.

Well i just wanna share tht, and i hope i'm very welcome in here. Thks and regards to all.

>>>Jen :)

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Fri, 04-25-2003 - 9:13am
Welcome, Jen...Glad you found us!
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Registered: 04-16-2003
Fri, 04-25-2003 - 12:04pm
Hey Jen!! Welcome to our board!!! happy to have you! First of all, let me just share with you that I am also in an overseas relationship. My SO, Mark....is in Scotland, while I am here in Tennesse, USA. SO, yes I can relate to the phone bills being so high. We met about two months ago, now going on three. WOO HOO. He and I have not officially met yet, either, but we speak daily over the phone, on line, and view our webcam weekly. We send pictures of one another constantly via mail. SO, we are keeping the lines of communication open, which is soooo important in these types of relationships as you may know.

I can also relate to how you feel about your SO. There is a definite connection between Mark and I, and he is planning to come over in June and possibly relocate for good. WOO HOO! SO, we are in love, yes. I love him, yes. We have never met, no. BUT...I believe that any sane, adult person can fall in love with someone on line through mail, chat, and phone calls without meeting in person. I think it cancels out the lustful relationships most believe is love in the beginning, then end up fizzling out quickly. Mark and I have based what we have on friendship and common life goals and interests. We have both been divorced before, and have children. SO, we know what it is to fall in love, nothing is confusing about it. We know what we both want and we will be together as soon as he can get here.

It is hard to meet these days, especially from overseas. Travel has so many rules now a days, it is not easy to just pick up and go meet someone. There has to be a connection, there has to be love involved, and it has to be worth it. Now, Mark and I believe what we have is worth it. My point is, I know how you must feel. You want to see this man and continue the physical of the relationship, but it will take some time. Thank you for introducing yourself on our board. We happy to have another great opinion and voice about on line love!! Post often!

Gail

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Fri, 04-25-2003 - 7:20pm
Welcome to the family Jen :)

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Sat, 04-26-2003 - 11:10am
Hi i've been lurking here too (I generally hang out on LD relationships) but I've decided to introduce myself: I've sort of developed a relationship online too.

Gail you know about this of course; my guy is an expatriate, he lives in the states, he's divorced but still having to face a couple of appeals re: custody and money, but we've been chatting and talking on the phone for 5 weeks now (he calls, I can't afford it) and we hope to meet too... these things really can happen, and I know people say you have to see each other pretty soon not live in a fantasy world based on IM and phone and email, but one can't always afford to meet up for a date really quick if one is like in another continent... so i think if the feelings are genuine, if it's based on mental rapport and support as well as emotional attraction, and it lasts beyond those first few weeks when you click and you think oh, i must see this person, if you can cultivate patience and encourage each other to focus on a long-term goal, it really has a chance.

B and I have become part of each other's lives, we talk every morning and evening (we are 10 hrs time distance) and we have both decided we don't want do date anyone ... I was tired of being told it's a freakish, unrealistic thing, i'm happy to have this board and the other to share and seek advice.

Here's to all the patient people who are waiting and keeping the friendship alive till the day it can blossom into something really meaningful.

Sal.
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Sat, 04-26-2003 - 4:50pm
Welcome, Sal!
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Sun, 04-27-2003 - 1:50pm
Welcome to Cyberconnections Sal!
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Registered: 04-06-2003
Sun, 04-27-2003 - 7:34pm
Hi Jen, Welcome to the board! I know the phone bills in these relatinships can be crazy, but there is great website called www.bigzoo.com!! They have great rates! Good Luck
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Mon, 04-28-2003 - 8:44am
First of all, welcome to the newbies on here. This is a great group, and you'll find lots of support and friendship here.

Well, since others are giving their bios, here's mine...

I am also in an international relationship that started out online. I'm from Virginia and Mark (not Gail's Mark, but MY Mark! LOL) is from England. We met last February on an online dating site called Udate. We don't how it happened, can't explain it, but we both felt instant chemistry from the very moment we start chatting the night we met. The online version of love at first sight, if you will. ;) We've been together ever since.

Within weeks of meeting online, we were already talking about having a long-term future together. But we made a conscious choice NOT to make any concrete plans until we'd met in person. Finally, after a looooong seven-month wait, Mark came over last Sept-Oct and stayed for a month. Finally being together made the wait totally worth it. It felt like we had already known each other for a lifetime.

On Oct 6, Mark proposed, and I accepted! A week later he returned to England, and we started the paperwork for his emigration to the States. On March 24, he got his fiance visa at the US Embassy in London, and he'll be arriving here May 29. We're getting married June 18. :)

Btw, I discovered BigZoo.com last July, and it has been a LIFESAVER!! I can call the UK for only 3.9¢/minute. Also, on the rare occasions where BigZoo has charged me erroneously (ie, I get a busy signal but get charged anyway), they've refunded my money EVERY time I've requested it, no problem. I definitely recommend them to anyone looking for cheap long distance rates (outbound US calls only, however).

~ Neat


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Registered: 04-16-2003
Mon, 04-28-2003 - 9:32am
Oh, SAL! That is so true. You just read my mind totally with what you posted. Sometimes, no you cant always meet right away. We should all know about that one. It is very expensive now a days, especially overseas! Goodness. So, yes...with patience and growing love and friendship through the relationship, it can work out for all of us. You are a great addition to our board! Thanks so much for coming over! :)

Gail

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Tue, 04-29-2003 - 8:36am
Welcome, Jen! I know that the phone calls can get expensive. Don and I are only 250 miles apart, but we've both spent a fortune to talk to each other since we met online in January. Even though I'd be thrilled if we lived closer, I think that having to communicate by phone and IM has given us the chance to really get to know each other. I know more about him than I did my last bf that lived in the same town as I do.

Glad to have you here!

Melissa

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