Hi there! Still going well.....
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Hi there! Still going well.....
| Thu, 12-08-2005 - 8:29am |
...Update to say things are still going great with the new OLD boyfriend! Over one month together, and we will probably live together soon! Just went that fast! Thanks to OLD! Specifically- Yahoo! Guess if this keeps going so good, we will have to let Yahoo know and see if we can get some benefits from it! LOL. :))
Wish us happiness!
Hugs, Sara

Wow, you've been dating one month and you are going to move in together already? To me that seems WAY too fast but I guess if you guys are comfortable with it then more power to you. I've been dating my guy a little over 2 months now and I couldn't imagine taking that step with him yet. It's going at a nice even pace for me, not too fast, not too slow. Keep us up to date. Good luck!
Layx2
Far be it from me to criticize someone from moving too fast. Just keep your feet firmly on the ground in this early period. I would caution you though from creating too many scenarios about the future in your mind (about selling yourself to yahoo as a success story, e.g.) because IF things don't work out, then it will make it all the more difficult.
I believe you are in the high of being in a new relationship. Enjoy all of it, but maintain a sense of reality about where things are and where things haven't yet gone in the relationship. For instance, have you two been through any challenges yet? I would suspect not after a month. Moving in together will certainly remove much of the mystery and euphoric feelings that go with new relationships and will also bring new challenges and obstacles that you two must be ready to deal with.
That said, I wish you the best. I hope this fast relationship turns out to be a success.
SBC.
Thanks. Yes, things happen fast for me most of the time. 1st marriage was a fast thing....but I was pregnant...it was in the stars, meant to be though I did not love my first husband. I *do* love my child. It was meant to be! 2nd husband was the first time I ever had a big love that was returned....and it lasted 12 years. Should have lasted longer, maybe forever....but I let go. We were stubborn and it was a shame. 3rd husband was also fast, a good, true love, and meant to be.....but it ended.
People come into your life for a reason.....
I really do love the man I am with now....Sort of a love at first sight!
Sara
Thanks, SBC...Lots of good insights there. You are a smart cookie for sure! I know the challenges are ahead.
Sara
Wow that's quick!!! But good for you if everything is good!
I think I have you confused with someone else, I didn't even think you were divorced yet from your 3rd husband. Good grief I can't keep up with all these people on the board.
Hi Sara-
Great news (wink)!
CL-Truewild1969
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Thanks Jodie! You are so right...me too. The decision to move in together early on or the relationship moving quickly was not the problem in my relationships in the past either! It wasn't until many years later that they came apart at the seams...and for totally different reasons than moving too fast, that is for sure!! Much luck to you too! When it feels right, it feels right! :))
Sara
Sara,
I think you're missing the point(s) that Vexer & I are making. But, whatever, the posts are there for posterity & future reflection.
Well, OK, let me play devil's advocate here (cuz it's what I do!). OK, you say that moving in so quickly was not the reason for your break ups. You don't have to say WHY you did, however could any of the reasons been that you grew apart or grew to see that this person had different values, views or morals (or whatever) than you did and that you knew this person was not who you should be with for life? Is it anything that if you'd spent more time on the front end getting to know each other before professing undying love that winds up dying that maybe you'd said, hmmm.... Maybe that if you'd known it BEFORE moving in, would have stopped you from moving in but once you were already there, it was much easier to stay there and see if you could work it out or change each other?
Just a thought and it still may have nothing to do with any of that, but it is good to think on that. And yes, if someone can find the list of things you should know about someone before moving in, it would be interesting to see that.
Thanks, Trav. I see your and Vex's points...just don't agree. No, I don't think if I knew more about my Ex's beforehand that it would have turned out any differently. None of us know how long a relationship will last...whether we are together one month before moving in together or one decade. There are no guarantees.
Sara