His expectations after 1st date

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Registered: 11-01-2005
His expectations after 1st date
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Wed, 01-25-2006 - 4:35pm

I'll keep this brief: Met a guy through Match, we went out on our first meet last Friday night. I intended to stay for an hour, but we really hit it off and talked for four hours, kissed goodnight, etc. He called the next day to say he had a great time and he really liked me. All good.

Well, I took my profile off Match shortly after I started e-mailing this guy, but before we met. I was on a 10-day free trial and he knew that, hence the reason for taking down the profile. He also hid his profile shortly after we talked on the phone the first time.

Ok, now to the point... He happened to find my MySpace profile yesterday and he got a little bummed out about it and told me so yesterday. He said he only dates one person at a time, he was worried I was a serial dater, etc. I told him that we had only been on one date, and I generally become exclusive as I get to know the person better.

Has this happened to anyone else? Advice on how to handle it? I'm not ready to be exclusive with someone so soon, but I don't want him to think I'm online collecting men, either. We do have a nice connection and I'd like to see where it goes.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Wed, 01-25-2006 - 4:41pm
Ugh. Don't compromise what you want. If you want to keep dating other people, do that. If he doesn't like it, that's really his issue. That's too bad because it sounds like you two hit it off pretty well. Just be honest with him and tell him exactly what you posted - that's you're not a serial dater but you're not ready to be exclusive. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you and having things progress, he should be willing to be patient.