Hmm what to think?? PLEASE HELP

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Hmm what to think?? PLEASE HELP
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Wed, 11-15-2006 - 5:47am
OK...so I have been chatting with a guy online (which he initiated) for about 5 days now. He has been sending me messages every morning...which basically says..good morning and have a good day..we usually talk in im at night for a while. However, I guess I am confused because I haven't heard from him in the past two days. There has been no attempt on his part to get my e-mail address of phone number to take the next step. so I I gave him my e-mail address without him asking for it..of which he has not given me his nor written to me. He says (or has said) that he likes what he has read on my profile and since we've talked he really likes talking to me and thinks that we could make a great match, says he thinks I'm sweet, funny and always tells me I'm beautiful. Question here is, if this guy was truly interested why have I not heard from him in 2 days?? Or hasn't made any attempt to make plans to meet in person or even e-mailed or asked for a number? We live about 1 1/2 hours away so this maybe an issue..not sure....I'm sure I'm just being a girl about this but am wondering...should I send him a message or go by all the rules and wait for him to contact me next? I have been in the situation, where I have met someone online and we have talking online (im'ing)for about 2 months before we met and had great chemistry and got along great ONLINE...but when we met in person...there was NOTHING, no spark, no nothing..not even a wanting to see the guy again, so I don't want to waste my time or this guys time and go through this all over again...HELP??? What do I DO???
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Wed, 11-15-2006 - 8:05am

First of all.. You haven't even met yet and you know from experience that online chemistry doesn't necessarily translate to in person chemistry, so chill. Secondly, you have to hope that this guy has a life, and if he does, he's not going to overly prioritize being in contact with somebody he hasn't even met yet. Don't initiate anything. Just wait, if it's meant to be, he'll get back in touch..

Coolas

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Wed, 11-15-2006 - 10:39am
Sometimes I go longer than two days not getting back to a guy. I am extremely busy with work, school and other stuff. I'm just not always in that mindframe even when I *am* extremely interested in a guy. Make yourself busy and you won't notice as much how much time passes. Try not to put too much weight in this initial emailing phase. Five days is not long enough to be able to decide if this behavior of his in indicative of anything.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-15-2006 - 10:43am

I would assume that he's one of the many flakes online who likes to chat but never take things further. If he's NOT one of those flakes and he's truly interested in meeting, he'll get in touch, but I'd move on mentally if I were you and not expect anything.

People say a lot of things online--it's easy and doesn't take much time or commitment to do so. Don't trust in words, trust in *actions*.

Sheri

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Wed, 11-15-2006 - 6:54pm
YUP I know..I just had a moment where I acted like a girl!! I know better...and I knew the answer...guess I just needed ppl to tell me!! THAnks!