hmmm, I smell a rat! How about you?

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Registered: 05-10-2003
hmmm, I smell a rat! How about you?
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 12:54am
Well, my buddy and I (this guy friend I've had for quite awhile)each have ad's out on different dating sites.

He's not had the best of luck and to top it off, feels that "American" women really don't know their place in the home...this translates to: He cant control them like he really wants to...and...they arn't submissive enough. He doesn't like it that women are taking all the mens jobs and yada, yada, yada. THANK GOD I am only this guys friend. He jokes with me about his opinions and I usually give him both barrels about how idiotic I think he is.

Ok, now on to the juicy stuff...

He has been conversing with this gal in Peru for about a month or so. They do the IM thing every night for about 5-8 hours. They each have a web cam so I guess he feels it's really "up close and personal".

She was deported from the US for working here illegally and can't come back to the states till 2006. She says the only way she can come to the states is if she gets married.

She "says" her and her husband are divorced, yet she still lives with him cuz she can't find work and because she wants to stay untill her son graduates from highschool which is at the end of the year. She says her husband (ex) is controlling and abusive and that the reason they are divorced is cuz he was seeing another woman.

She wants my friend to not email other women since she is not emailing other guys. She was going to go to Italy to meet this guy before she started talking to my friend but now she isn't going to.

He has decided to go to Peru in Febuary to meet her. He feels they have a "love" for one another and that her intentions are honest (meaning she isn't going to use him to get here)

Personally, I smell a rat. And if she demands that he not talk to me, then I smell a bigger rat, cuz I've been his friend for over 5 years.

He seems to think foreign women "know their place" and are much more "submissive" than us american girls. Personally, I think she is taking him for a ride.

I know no one can say for sure what's really going on in her mind, but what do some of the statistics show about this kind of stuff? I asked him if he would get married and he hemmed and hawed around about it. He did say that if she really, really wanted to come here, he would marry her so she could. Oh boy!!!!!!!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 10:09am
there's a lid for every pot, isn't there? :)
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Registered: 08-07-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 11:37am
I think they are made for each other! I get the sense that neither one of them gives a hoot about the other as a person, they each just want to use the other to get what they want.

If all he wants is a submissive receptacle, though, why doesn't he just order a mail-order bride?

"taking away mens' jobs"??? haven't heard that one in awhile.

geez. please tell me this is a joke.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 1:12pm
I think he will get just what he deserves.