Hmmm...confused and scared

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Hmmm...confused and scared
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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 10:26am

Okay, please don't ask me how I know this or how I came across the information, just know that it's true.

What would you do if you found out a guy you were dating had taken a drug for schizophrenia or bipolar... I don't know if he is still currently taking the medication, but I do know that he did take it about a year and a half ago when he was seeing a therapist.... Now, I have spent some time with this guy and I have never seen or heard any indications of any mental health disorders... Now, I'll be honest here- I am on a mild medication for depression after dealing with my Ex's affair, but I am not on an antipsychotic drug.

I'm a little scared b/c I know that is not something you would share with someone unless you could trust them. Plus if he DOES have that severe of a mental illness wouldn't he still be on medication and would he be allowed to have his children on a regular basis, plus could he hold down a job?

I am just hoping that this medication is used for other purposes and not for the treatment of schizophrenia......

What do you guys think????

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 10:30am
You should really really research the subject and not depend on what you think you know, or what anyone on this board thinks they know. Get the facts, ma'am!
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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 10:33am

How do you know - did you find old pill bottles? Did he tell you? If someone told me that I'd probably end it. If you want to have a family one day that is a huge thing to consider. BP is far more severe then depression. Schiz? seems even more intense but I don't know much about either of the two just that I wouldn't want to be involved as relationships are hard enough w/out adding that to the mix. Their happy one day then boom low the next - ? I think they are on meds for a reason and should stay on them. I'd find out from your BF what the deal is...

Sorry and good luck.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 10:39am

If he was on those drugs a year ago and isn't on them now, then I'd wonder if he had been misdiagnosed by an over zealous phsyciatrist.

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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 10:45am

Unfortunaly, I can't just come out and ask him. But I did ask my sister who is a pharmacist and she said people also take this drug to help them sleep.

SO I can take a deep breath now , b/c I was scared for a minute. But he is also on a sleeping pill.... so I am pretty sure that is why he used to be on it...

I got scared for a minute.... no I didn't find old rx bottles.... I can't say how I found out....

I am still a little shaken up, b/c I like this guy and I can understand that what he went through a year and a half ago would cause some mental health problems.... his wife had an affair... but I think he has himself together now....

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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 11:19am

The only way to get your answer is to ask!


I was on an antipsychotic for 6 weeks several years ago, from an "overzealous doctor" when an unfortunate visit to the ER for severe

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Registered: 09-14-2005
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 1:10pm

Why can't you say how you found out? Not like any of us know you or him.

What's the name of the med?

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 2:07pm

let's just say I work in the health field....

name of the drug is risperdel (sp?)

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Registered: 09-14-2005
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 2:30pm
So you looked him up in your database?
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Registered: 06-27-2005
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 2:31pm
I would rather not answer any questions about how I know this information. Thanks.
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Registered: 05-09-2005
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 2:35pm

I believe both of those are "genetic" disorders. I'm confused as to why it was only diagnosed a year and a 1/2 ago -- but then again people with those disorders can lead normal lives with medication and therapy.

The only two issues I see are:

1. An individual not dealing with the disorder --- refusing to take meds and/or therapy; and

2. Having children -- the child can be born with the genetic disorder -- of course, with meds and/or therapy the child can lead a normal life!

Instead of assuming, give it time and then ask questions. That says a lot that he told you (or your friend or whoever it is) but the person needs to be honest if this is something the person can deal with.

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