Holding Back?

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Registered: 11-16-2003
Holding Back?
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Wed, 07-26-2006 - 11:54pm
I've been dating this guy for a few weeks now. We've gone out 3 times and are planning a 4th date for this weekend. I am assuming that he is into me otherwise he wouldn't continue to ask me out and keep in contact during the week. I am confused because he hasn't made any moves towards physical affection. I can understand that maybe he is being the perfect gentleman and taking things slow, but he hasn't even hugged me yet. I am not one to make the first move so that isn't an option. I am just beginning to think that he isn't that physically attracted to me or has some problems with physical intimacy. What do all of you think?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: freesia3
Thu, 07-27-2006 - 12:44am

I wouldn't assume that's the case after only 3 dates. If it continued for another couple-3 dates, then I'd start to wonder if he just wanted to be platonic friends, and I'd probably ask at that point.

Sheri

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Registered: 06-02-2006
In reply to: freesia3
Thu, 07-27-2006 - 4:56pm

Your question sounds like the counter to what I am asking. I guess I was thinking that only three dates was a bit premature to start becoming more physical in that approach. Of course, I know that must vary from woman to woman... thanks for the insight to my question...

Jim

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: freesia3
Fri, 07-28-2006 - 11:58pm
For ME, if there is obvious physical attraction on both sides, I woudl expect a 1st kiss to have happend by the 3rd date or so.

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