A Horror Story w/Happy Ending

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Registered: 12-26-2009
A Horror Story w/Happy Ending
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Thu, 02-11-2010 - 4:02pm

Be with someone who knows what they have when they have you!

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Thu, 02-11-2010 - 4:52pm

I think you are very wise to cut off this guy. My 2nd DH had a very loose relationship w/ the truth. The biggest lie that I found out was that he "forgot" to tell me about his 2nd DW. I knew about his 1st DW (the mother of his child) who died. Ironically I knew about the woman who was his 2nd DW because he had a tattoo w/ her initials (that he later covered up) but he never said they were married--he always called her this woman he lived with. I don't know why he thought it was better for me to think he had a live-in GF than a DW, but maybe he was just embarrassed. Anyway, I found out by accident after we got married.

Since then I found out other things where he told me half truths. Like he told me that no one helped him take care of his 1st DW when she was sick w/ cancer. Recently his SIL told me that he never told anyone that his DW had cancer until a few days before she died. It just makes me wonder how many lies he told me through the years and now I would question anything he told me unless I had verification. To me, being truthful is one of the most important qualities in a person. If you know that a person will lie about little things, then how can you trust them in big things, like if they are telling you they aren't cheating on you.

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Registered: 12-26-2009
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 5:15pm

Holy cow! I'm sorry that happened to you, luckily you got out of there eventually!

Be with someone who knows what they have when they have you!

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Fri, 02-12-2010 - 2:45am
Dang! I hope no one asks to see a copy of my degree! I don't even know where it is. I think my mom might have it.
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Fri, 02-12-2010 - 6:08am
IMVAO: don't get involved with a person in a war zone! The may not have smoked before but combat and tension does things to people. It always has. Yes it is very possible to have unknown litigation. But this was an fantasy emotional what if romance in your head. Do get rid if that checklist!
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Registered: 12-02-2009
Fri, 02-12-2010 - 9:53pm

I don't understand the purpose of half truths and lies in relationships. What do they think they're going to accomplish?


Oh Dawny,


Your story is deja-vu for me. I waited 18 months after I divorced to start dating. A few months into the process, I met a man who turned out to be a total liar and manipulator.


He did tell me in the beginning about some professional trouble he had been in years before. But he *seemed* to have learned a lesson from his past actions, which cost him dearly emotionally and financially. When I met him, he was very involved in his church and a bible study group. I got to know those friends who all seemed to approve of the man he had become in the wake of his troubles. I was hesitant but wanted to give him credit for coming clean at the outset.


In very short order, I

Your final reward will be heartaches and tears if you’ve cheated the man in the glass.          &nb

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Registered: 02-25-2009
Sat, 02-13-2010 - 9:14am
Good for YOU that you realized this is ALL about a lying jerk, & NOT about YOU!
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Sun, 02-14-2010 - 1:31am
Dawn great for you that you had the guts to turn this loser away.
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Registered: 12-26-2009
Sun, 02-14-2010 - 11:34pm

@Kak-I love Seattle! Great city, great people, and beautiful part of the country. :)


for the other smart ladies out there-thanks for the support! It's funny...the only one telling me to give another chance has been the guy-After a week of berating me with not so loving emails continuing to blame my "intimacy issues", I recieved a disgusting display of "maybe I can hide the fact that I'm a big, fat liar behind two dozen flowers, 10 balloons and a box of chocolates", delivered at my job no less,

Be with someone who knows what they have when they have you!