Be with someone who knows what they have when they have you!
@Kak-I love Seattle! Great city, great people, and beautiful part of the country. :)
for the other smart ladies out there-thanks for the support! It's funny...the only one telling me to give another chance has been the guy-After a week of berating me with not so loving emails continuing to blame my "intimacy issues", I recieved a disgusting display of "maybe I can hide the fact that I'm a big, fat liar behind two dozen flowers, 10 balloons and a box of chocolates", delivered at my job no less,
I don't understand the purpose of half truths and lies in relationships. What do they think they're going to accomplish?
Your story is deja-vu for me. I waited 18 months after I divorced to start dating. A few months into the process, I met a man who turned out to be a total liar and manipulator.
He did tell me in the beginning about some professional trouble he had been in years before. But he *seemed* to have learned a lesson from his past actions, which cost him dearly emotionally and financially. When I met him, he was very involved in his church and a bible study group. I got to know those friends who all seemed to approve of the man he had become in the wake of his troubles. I was hesitant but wanted to give him credit for coming clean at the outset.
In very short order, I
Your final reward will be heartaches and tears if youâ€™ve cheated the man in the glass. &nb
Holy cow! I'm sorry that happened to you, luckily you got out of there eventually!
I think you are very wise to cut off this guy. My 2nd DH had a very loose relationship w/ the truth. The biggest lie that I found out was that he "forgot" to tell me about his 2nd DW. I knew about his 1st DW (the mother of his child) who died. Ironically I knew about the woman who was his 2nd DW because he had a tattoo w/ her initials (that he later covered up) but he never said they were married--he always called her this woman he lived with. I don't know why he thought it was better for me to think he had a live-in GF than a DW, but maybe he was just embarrassed. Anyway, I found out by accident after we got married.
Since then I found out other things where he told me half truths. Like he told me that no one helped him take care of his 1st DW when she was sick w/ cancer. Recently his SIL told me that he never told anyone that his DW had cancer until a few days before she died. It just makes me wonder how many lies he told me through the years and now I would question anything he told me unless I had verification. To me, being truthful is one of the most important qualities in a person. If you know that a person will lie about little things, then how can you trust them in big things, like if they are telling you they aren't cheating on you.