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| Thu, 07-14-2005 - 9:13pm |
Oh God,
I just discovered something... And it's not pretty.
I was trolling around on match as if I was a man (lawyer-man) looking for a woman within his hight/age limitations and I found the girl that he is dating/interested in. (besides the fact he is still on-line at times).
The pieces of this puzzle are coming together..
The 1st date I met him I mention how some people are doing multiple dates and stuff and he said that he had only been talking ot one other girl and she had recently moved to our city but she grew up here.
Well folks, I found her! She hasn't been on-line in 3 weeks and that is matching the fact that I met him about that time. Pathetically enough I think he is looking for a woman who makes a lot of money and I mean close to or better than 6 figures. The girl is very avg looking and full of pretentiousness (apprentice-type) but she makes a very comfy living.
When we were seeing each other I could tell he was sizing me up. He asked about my ex - if he has a good job and he noted to me on a different occasion "well you are doing ok, making pretty good money, right?" Oh man, it all makes sense now. I can tell that he was torn because I KNOW he was very attracted to me but I didn't fit his money status bill. It makes sense now how he was flipping back and forth untill he figured out that I am a single mom and don't have the kind of money to travel the world! How sad is that! I suppose everyone is looking for different things :) Sorry if I misspelled anything here, I didn't spell check and I am foreign.
Edited 7/14/2005 9:15 pm ET ET by ivosoh
Edited 7/14/2005 9:17 pm ET ET by ivosoh

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I wouldn't feel bad...I'd be glad that I found out early just what kind of guy he really is!
Hi Ivos,
I'm sorry you learned this, but are you sure about it? But trust your instincts as they are usually always right. At least you found out now before you invested more of your heart. Would you really want someone that is only "all about the money"??? I know it hurts when you realize a truth, but wouldn't you rather know now that be hurt months later? You are too good for him anyway!!!!!!!! Take care and keep that chin up.
Sunshine
You know there some people that are looking for this "JCrew" style - preppy couple with 2-3 kids in a Nordic-style matching sweaters, lots of money, ski vacations, house in a preppy hood. I KNOW this is what he is after to match his friend's life-style.
I know he told me that he would love to buy a house in this neighborhood next to his friend and they are starting at $500000 so he is looking for someone who can contribute a great deal to that life style. I KNOW that if I were a doctor he would have proposed to me on the 1st date :) I knew it was weird when he talked to me about wining lottery (I thought he was kidding), writing a book or doing something that would give him lots of money at once because he doesn't even like his job for that matter.
I do know one thing - it's ok to go after what you want but the thing is he appears so confused because I don't think he like that girl 100% either. I feel that he is sleazing her too because while she is off line - he is trolling around every day. But I am going to stop checking on that. It was pure curiosity on my part!
There are all sorts of people on-line! Beware!
Edited 7/16/2005 2:38 pm ET ET by ivos2004
I am not sure what you are getting terribly upset about. We all have our preferences. I for instance CANT date a wealthy man because I dont have the income to do that...i.e. clothes, money to contribute to dates that may be extravagant reciprocally, i cant afford to travel etc. Sometimes i just am not into the kinda crowd that wealth attracts too. On the flip side I am not into folks who don't work for a living or find ways to buck the system and dont earn their living. I like my "flock" somewhere between lower and middle income lol
Did you ever consider for a moment that:
Perhaps he does have money and lives a certain lifestyle and wants to be around that mindset...not necessarily the money itself ..but the drive it takes to have and keep it, the experiences that come with that lifestyle that influence a mindset. I am not saying people without money do not have experiences or drive, but there are differences in everyday life expereiences or how things are viewed etc (i could go on) ...
OR
Perhaps he doesn't want someone who might be looking to HIM as a meal ticket or having to totally fund a relationship etc. KWIM? There are two sides to this coin, i think. I can understand your disappointment...but to be angry as if he was the devil when you don't know his whole story ...seems a lil tunnelvisioned. I may have the facts wrong as from what i gathered you've only been seeing him a few weeks and at the same time as this other woman. Be glad he was open about seeing someone else and not pretending you are the end all and be all. He isnt married (hopefully) ..last i looked..it was legal to date more than one person especially if only involved for a few weeks. right?
Lizzie
Lizzie
Lizzie
I don't have anything for or against that girl but just from observing the kind of a person he is - I can clearly see that there is no way she would be his type looks-wise. I might of been to harsh in expressing this thought.
As far as taking advantage - I don't feel that he had done that since I was willing to participate. He did try to take advantage of me during our last conversation by making a slimy proposition to "hang out" but such an offer was rejected. I made my peace with the situation even though rejection still sucks - I am moving on :)
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