how about it!!

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Registered: 06-27-2005
how about it!!
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Thu, 07-14-2005 - 9:13pm

Oh God,
I just discovered something... And it's not pretty.
I was trolling around on match as if I was a man (lawyer-man) looking for a woman within his hight/age limitations and I found the girl that he is dating/interested in. (besides the fact he is still on-line at times).
The pieces of this puzzle are coming together..
The 1st date I met him I mention how some people are doing multiple dates and stuff and he said that he had only been talking ot one other girl and she had recently moved to our city but she grew up here.
Well folks, I found her! She hasn't been on-line in 3 weeks and that is matching the fact that I met him about that time. Pathetically enough I think he is looking for a woman who makes a lot of money and I mean close to or better than 6 figures. The girl is very avg looking and full of pretentiousness (apprentice-type) but she makes a very comfy living.
When we were seeing each other I could tell he was sizing me up. He asked about my ex - if he has a good job and he noted to me on a different occasion "well you are doing ok, making pretty good money, right?" Oh man, it all makes sense now. I can tell that he was torn because I KNOW he was very attracted to me but I didn't fit his money status bill. It makes sense now how he was flipping back and forth untill he figured out that I am a single mom and don't have the kind of money to travel the world! How sad is that! I suppose everyone is looking for different things :) Sorry if I misspelled anything here, I didn't spell check and I am foreign.

Edited 7/14/2005 9:15 pm ET ET by ivosoh




Edited 7/14/2005 9:17 pm ET ET by ivosoh

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2005
In reply to: ivosoh
Mon, 07-18-2005 - 12:30pm
Can't help how you feel but I'm not judging you. I've slept with guys when I shouldn't have but I don't blame them for it. All I'm saying is that I don't believe him to be all bad because he wants what he wants or he wanted to hang out with you. It just wasn't meant to be. Doesn't mean either one of you should be chastised for it.
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Registered: 01-31-2004
In reply to: ivosoh
Mon, 07-18-2005 - 12:50pm
he isn't a bad person but not a good one either and it's not because he broke up with me -it's what was said and done while we were together that make me come up with such a statement.
I am done talking about it.
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Registered: 07-03-2004
In reply to: ivosoh
Mon, 07-18-2005 - 1:06pm

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Too bad. KITB had a valid point -- it's unfair, uncool, to slag someone just because they chose someone else. I've been on your side all through this, hoping it would work out for you. It hasn't, and it's important to keep a positive outlook or OLD will break you.

amjay

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Registered: 01-31-2004
In reply to: ivosoh
Mon, 07-18-2005 - 1:39pm
I made my peace with the situation, really. I had doubts about this person from the very beginning but somehow got sucked into it against my better judgment.
He has many nice qualities and I hope he find what he wants.
Overall we are not a good match otherwise it would have worked out. I am sorry that I sounded so bitter about it. As I said before - I am moving on.

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