How anti-climactic

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Registered: 11-18-2003
How anti-climactic
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Tue, 04-05-2005 - 9:48am

Last week I was contacted by someone online. We exchanged a couple of emails and then I asked if he'd be okay with talking on the phone instead. He sent me his number and I called him last Thurs. He wanted to set up a day to meet right then and there but I didn't have my schedule yet so he said he'd call on Sunday.


The next morning I received an email from him saying that he enjoyed talking to me and is looking forward to talking to me on the weekend to set up a day to meet.


He didn't call.


So...last night, in Chat I told this story and said that while I realized that it might be fruitless to do so, I was thinking of sending an email basically asking, "What's up?" but without sounding snotty . Some said to forget it and others said it would hurt.


So, after Chat I sent an email and wrote that I'm sorry that we didn't get another chance to speak but that I was still up for meeting if he was.


Good news - he wrote back within minutes saying that he still wanted to meet.


Bad news - he didn't apologize or explain why he didn't call like

 

 

 

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 11:01am

" however, I think clipping my dogs' nails might be a better use of my time.

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 11:11am

Hey...I can come up with excuses for the IM/text thing too .


IM - we were basically conversing via email last night. I can see how IM might be faster/easier since obviously we were both online at the same time anyway.


Texting - He said he could confirm today if Thurs is good for him. If we're both at work - and I said I won't be home tonight - texting might be the easiest way to get a hold of me .


I'm not feeling so great about how this might evolve but...on the other hand I do think that sometimes we do make presumptions about the other person - a total stranger . We're not mind readers so fine - I'll give a little leeway - a little benefit of the doubt and just once not put up the barrier again so quickly. .

 

 

 

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 11:30am

In all honesty, him not calling when he said he would bothers me too.

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 11:32am

My dogs do not see any humor at all in the clipping of their nails - they think it is a life-threatening procedure!

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 11:36am
Hehehe....we used to have (actually, my mother still has her) a Himalayan cat.

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 1:22pm
Balls in his court. No matter how you analyze or slice it -- if he doesn't make an effort - push the eject button and launch him..
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Registered: 02-01-2005
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 3:52pm

Ugh, I know EXACTLY what you mean, jhoover, this same thing happened to me just today! So last Thursday night, I swear, I could have met THE ONE; he was just that perfect. He was GORGEOUS--I mean this guy could have been a model (at least in my eyes, and I have NEVER said that about any guy I've talked to online), and he IM'ed me on the OLD site and we started talking and he was actually sweet, nice, gracious, and told me "You are gorgeous sweetie" when he saw my pics. So naturally I was over-freakin-joyed. So he ended up giving me his email address and repeatedly (in three private messages on the OLD site) said he was looking forward to talking to me. So that was Friday morning, his last PM to me. So, rather than looking too eager, I waited until Monday (yesterday) late morning and wrote him a short but cute, (maybe even a bit flirty) email and waited for his response. Almost 26 hours later now, and zipedeedoodah from his end. :-( Boy am I bummed. Yes, I know it's only been a day...but, he did get on the OLD site at some point yesterday, because it has yesterday as his last log-in date. So he WAS online at some point, which means he could have written me back. I'm pretty devastated because I'm like you are, jhoover, I usually take people at their word to. ::smacks self in head:: I have to remember to stop doing that.

Man, and he was SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO GORGEOUS too, right around my age, owned a business, etc. Perfect guy on paper. Just crappy on follow through.

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 3:56pm
Those young boys are so undependable.
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Registered: 02-01-2005
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 4:06pm
Well he's 31, amjay, so technically, he should know better.
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Registered: 01-27-2005
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 5:27pm

Hey JH,

I think you did the right thing.. Although it was disappointing its better then never getting any closure. It could have gone either way, but knowing is better then not knowing.

We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.